When you’re happy or sad or angry, do you ever think about that feeling and explore it? By explore it, I don’t mean focusing on what just happened and your reaction; I mean diving into it with words that bring about an explosion of feelings and that lead you into a state of presence of that feeling. A state of presence because by focusing your attention on what you’re feeling in that moment you are living that feeling and nothing else.
Tag: inner growth mindset
When it comes to really knowing yourself, fears and biases are quite challenging to identify. They are two components that hinder our inner growth if they remain hidden. They do so by keeping us stuck and acting as blinders to opportunities, options, and different perspectives that lay before us. Without awareness of your fears and biases you are not able to overcome them, nor to see how they are tainting a situation or reaction with the feelings they bring about and thoughts they themselves instill upon you.
There’s that famous expression, “It’s not personal, it’s just business” that makes some people twist their noses and cringe just a bit or a lot. Even though the expression is used in a business setting, it is a reminder of how easy it can be for people to take things personally. We’ve all been there, but sometimes there’s that moment of reflection when you’re feeling like you’ve been offended or that the comment just made was meant for you and it makes you realize that maybe, just maybe, it’s not about you (at all).
As we explore life, our ups and downs, and continue our inner growth journey there are bound to be moments of insecurities. Everyone gets them, even if they may be few and far. Insecurities can have different ways of making us feel, but if we stay away from attributing a negative connotation to them we can reduce those down feelings and use those moments of insecurities in favor of strength and inner growth.
I always wonder what makes someone tell someone else that they are overthinking. I mean as people, we think. We formulate ideas, explore questions, interact with people; a lot of what we do has some thinking to it. Also, typically we overthink something when it’s meaningful to us. Of course, there is that downside to overthinking when the thoughts are saddening or angering….
In this past month, when the holiday season begins, you always notice a happy air about. It’s like everything feels so much more loved, joyous and kind. I don’t think it’s a coincidence and it is one of the things I love most about every holiday. People get warm feelings in their hearts and try to be thankful for all that they have, to give back and help those in need. If only every day could be a holiday, then we’d have the same amount of loving energy within us and around the world every day.
One of the toughest things people experience throughout their lifetime are the fluctuations of highs and lows. One moment you’re happy, the next you’re sad. It doesn’t have to always be like that, but it depends on how you approach those contrasting moments. Do you just let them happen? Do you question what’s going on? Do you find a reason for continuing to live in that emotional state? Do they even grab your attention in a thought provoking way or do you just notice them because of the horrible feeling you have when you’re going through a low?
The beauty of thought and self-exploration in the pursuit of inner growth and/or balance and harmony in life is the limitless possibilities you have. What angle you can take on anything you’re thinking about goes beyond our imagination. And thanks to the world that surrounds you, you are able to see, integrate or compare different perspectives, which all help you to expand that limitless potential you have. In this amazing experience, compromises are also something that can make you reflect, grow and expand your perspective.
If you really think about it, the differences each of us has is something quite special; not only does it make life colorful, but it is also something that supports the pursuit of inner growth. Certainly, there are some characteristics and behaviors that can conflict with one’s own; but if these differences didn’t exist, would we be inclined to look further? Would growth happen if there wasn’t anything that struck us or that brought about a reaction within us?
So, on the matter of closure. This need to bring things full circle before being able to let go of them is essentially another thing we hold on to if you think about. If you’re going to free yourself from external inputs as you pursue your inner growth and balance, letting go of a lot of things is going to be the way you achieve this thanks to the independence from external inputs you gain from doing this.