Inner Growth Word of The Day 59 – Unfriendly

February 28

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Unfriendly

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) 1. not friendly.  1 a. hostile.  1 b. inhospitable, unfavorable.

 

Unfriendly in a sentence: Meeting unfriendly people isn’t always ideal, but it can still be quite insightful and interesting.

 

Unfriendly in action: Someone or something that presents itself in a hostile way or that is closed off and not welcoming is considered unfriendly.

 

Unfriendly and inner growth: When dealing with an unfriendly situation or person, staying neutral allows you to keep an open mind, and will lead you to uncover things about the situation or person and also about yourself that you would have not otherwise seen.  If you are the unfriendly person, then exploring what creates hostility towards others or circumstances is a great place to start for steps towards inner growth.

 

Unfriendly and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: Have I ever been unfriendly? If so, when and why?  How did being unfriendly affect my life?  Do I like being unfriendly?  Have I met unfriendly people?  How did it make me feel to be around unfriendly people?  Was I able to change the unfriendliness somehow?  What’s one thing I always do when in an unfriendly situation?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with unfriendly at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. Now make a list of the opposite words to what you listed in the first list.  Is there a pattern of how you feel depending on the list?

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about unfriendly and let the feelings flow, but make a note of the things and/or people that come to mind as you’re thinking about unfriendliness.

 

Your turn – Share your unfriendly sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

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Inner Growth Word of The Day 58 – Hope

February 27

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Hope

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (v.) 1. to cherish a desire with anticipation.

 

Hope in a sentence: One can always have hope, especially when it comes to things we desire.

 

Hope in action: When you never give up on chasing your dream and keep it alive in your heart, hope is very much alive.

 

Hope and inner growth: Looking to complete one’s self through self-discovery and exploration is furthered thanks to hope.  Taking a look at the things you are hopeful about can further your inner growth journey.

 

Hope and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What do I think about hope? Do I have hope?  Have I ever given up on hope?  What’s my definition of hope?  How would my life be without hope?  Why do some people hope more than others?  Can hope be a bad thing?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with hope at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. Now use up to five words to describe what hope is to you.  With the words from both lists, write out a story of something you hoped for that came true.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about hope and allow them to take place in every inch of your body. As thoughts cross your mind make note of these things that fill your heart with hopefulness and have them there for you to give you strength on those tough days.

 

Your turn – Share your hope sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 57 – Needy

February 26

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Needy

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) 2. marked by want of affection, attention, or emotional support.

 

Needy in a sentence: Everyone can be needy at times, especially if at a low and going through a tough time.

 

Needy in action: Someone who looks elsewhere for support and affection is needy.

 

Needy and inner growth:  When needy, it’s important to understand if the affection and support wanted from others is because of a lack of self-love and support.  If this is the case, then inner growth can come from finding one’s own self-love and support.

 

Needy and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: Am I needy? If so why?  How has being needy affected my life?  How has it affected others?  What does being needy mean to me?  How do I see people who are needy?  Have I met people who are needy?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with needy at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. Next to the words listed, write situations for each in which that word would apply.  Now make a list of moments in your life where you were needy.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about being needy and allow them to flow, while also noticing if you are applying judgement to those feelings. Try to remove judgement if it’s there and let your thoughts flow along with the feelings that are coming by.  What stands out about your feelings?

 

Your turn – Share your needy sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 56 – Frustration

February 25

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Frustration

 

Google’s Dictionary/Search definition: (n.) 1. the feeling of being upset or annoyed, especially because of inability to change or achieve something.

 

Frustration in a sentence: Some people easily get frustrated and can’t seem to shake it off.

 

Frustration in action: When things don’t go as planned frustration can arise.

 

Frustration and inner growth:  Taking a closer look at why you get frustrated allows you to look within and work with those areas that need your attention.

 

Frustration and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: How do I feel about frustration? Do I get frustrated?  How easily or often do I get frustrated?  How has frustration affected me?  How has it affected my life?  What have I learned from moments of frustration?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with frustration at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. With that list, put next to each a moment where you found yourself frustrated.  With the words from your lists write a story that removes frustration from the picture.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about frustration and as you allow them to flow, see where they take you. If it’s a specific event that keeps repeating itself or if it’s a repetitive feeling, write them down and come back to them to take a deeper look at your whys.

 

Your turn – Share your frustration sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 55 – False

February 24

Inner Growth Word of the Day: False

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) 2 a. intentionally untrue.  2 b. adjusted or made so as to deceive.  2 c. intended or tending to mislead.  3. not true.  4 a. not faithful or loyal.  4 b. lacking naturalness or sincerity.

 

False in a sentence: When something is false it can be clear at times, but other times what we define as false may actually be true.

 

False in action: Being untrue about something or insincere, whether intentional or not, is false in the eyes of those that have been deceived.

 

False and inner growth: When you think of something false you can explore your reasons for thinking so; but what if you define some things and actions as false, but they are not false to the person or situation at hand.  The idea of false falls within those categories determined by our society, and inner growth can come from you questioning those definitions, as well as behaviors which you consider false, but that the person embodying them sees as true to them.

 

False and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What does false mean to me? How do I determine that something or someone is false?  How do I feel about falseness?  Have I been false before?  Who has influenced my notion of false?  Are there different ways to see false?  Do people define something or someone false in different ways?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with false at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. With those words write a story about a situation in your life that represented falseness to how you see it.  Next take that same story and make it true or give it attributes of truth.  How do the two stories differ?  How are you different in each or are you always the same?

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about the notion of something or someone being false and allow your thoughts of different situations to flow and lead your feelings in different directions. Try to notice if and how your feelings change from thinking about falseness in general terms, to personalizing it, to attributing your judgements and opinions to it.  What stands out the most from the feelings you feel?

 

Your turn – Share your false sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 54 – Judgment

February 23

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Judgment (Judgement)

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 1 a. a formal utterance of an authoritative opinion.  1 b. an opinion so pronounced.  4 a. the process of forming an opinion or evaluation by discerning and comparing.  4 b. an opinion or estimate so formed.  6. a proposition stating something believed or asserted.

 

Judgment in a sentence: Your judgment can express your final opinion following an in-depth evaluation for something regarding yourself or your life, or someone else and their life.

 

Judgment in action: If you judge a situation based on an evaluation or an authoritative opinion, it doesn’t mean your judgment is final or can’t change.

 

Judgment and inner growth: Judgment is a tricky one because sometimes it closes us off to evaluating alternative insights on a specific person or situation.  On the other hand, it is good that one decides for themselves that something or someone is how they’ve decided.  When it comes to inner growth, exploring why your judgment on ideas, people or situations are what they are can help.  Through your questions, you understand your judgment better.  You also allow for external inputs to have some voice and add to your insights instead of being closed off to them from the start.

 

Judgment and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: How do I feel about judgment? How do I use judgment in my life?  How do I use judgment with others?  What do I think about judgment?  Is judgment a given or is it something flexible for me?  Do I apply judgment to everything and everyone?  How has judgment affected my life?  How has my judgment affected my relationships and those around me?  Is there something I would change about my judgment?  If yes, in what circumstances?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with judgment at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. If you had to pick one word from the list you just made that represents your judgement, which word would it be and why that word?  What does this tell you about the way you apply judgment in your life, towards yourself and others?

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about judgment and when doing that I want you to try and really focus on what your initial feeling was, before you started thinking about judgment. Once you’ve identified that feeling try to allow that one to flow and if it keeps getting disrupted by other feelings, make a note of what types of feelings they are and explore why you think you’re getting those types of feelings too.

 

Your turn – Share your judgment sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

What do you see when you think about the things that have changed in your life

When you think about the things that have changed in your life, what do you see?  Do you stop to notice the types of traits you’ve acquired, some of the changes that have taken place to other traits that you thought would always be the same?  Do you stop to see the transformation that has taken place within following what you’ve experienced outside of you through life?

It’s quite easy to see the things that change in our outside world: career, household, people in our lives, acquired knowledge, income, etc.; but for the inside the lines aren’t always that clear nor should they be.  Since your essence is without form, even though it may be defined a certain way by those outside of you, it can take any shape or form it would like.  Although, the world has its generalizations, when it comes to how you are inside, it’s up to you to paint your picture.

You don’t only paint your picture, but you also know the true colors that make up your picture.  Personally, when I look at changes to the inside, I see more of a transformation than a change per se.  People I’ve known for many years have “changed” somewhat, but they essentially are the same in those pieces that make up their foundation.  Those components of them have through time and life experiences gotten them to be more of that one thing or less of it, but the component is still there.  So for example, someone who tends to take on very difficult challenges and be hard on themselves if they don’t succeed the way they wanted to; in time they have gotten a bit softer on themselves, but they still hold themselves to getting things done.

I like to think that life shares with us experiences that can help us dig deep and think about how we’re thinking, behaving, or feeling.  For sure, it seems like a trend for people as they get older to “soften” and be more patient with themselves, as well as with life.  On the other hand, there are plenty of older people that I know who are not patient at all, so it really depends.  All I do know, is that if you stop to take a look at your traits from inside, I know you’ll be able to see the transformations that have taken place so far thanks to life.  Some you may like, others you may not, and to those that you don’t like, I would say it’s a good place to start asking questions and seeing what you can do to change them.

What do you think about life and the changes and/or transformations that have come about?  Did you ever expect it to be this way?