The star of today’s topic is one of our Inspiring Human Potential blog and podcast – Inner Growth Inspirational “Be Yourself” Stories.
You get to hear from Fabiana about how she has experienced being herself; the importance of strength and trust in you; and how it is thanks to the challenges that come about in life that you will find both, which then also leads the way to living a life that is from the heart in the forefront in a way that respects others and your person, allowing you to be yourself.
Here you find Fabiana’s answers to the Inspiring Human Potential Inner Growth Inspirational “Be Yourself” interview questions, of which the first part is what you’ll hear about on the IHP podcast episode 😊
Part I Questions & Answers – Being Yourself and Life
- Q: What was the most challenging experience in being yourself growing up and how did you overcome this challenge to be all that you can be?
A: I was working as a team leader, but I realized that there was one person who did not accept me as such; in time she managed to affect the entire team and bring them against me. Initially, this situation bummed me out greatly, and above all it made me feel really bad (really sad). The fact that I was the one they would talk badly about when I wasn’t there; this was something very difficult for me to take in. I was 24, if I remember correctly. At a certain point, the situation became unsustainable and it was in this moment that I understood (that I had my ah ha moment). I thought to myself, “Ok, the bosses want me, and they trust me; so, who are they (the team) to come up against me?” And so, I began to understand and see much more, to capture their sly looks of accomplice and malice, alongside their giggles of gossip. I told myself, “Ok, your death, my life (this is an Italian saying translated in English, it roughly means “their demise”, that they would no longer be able to get away with their sneaky actions), now I command the game and who wants to dance will dance with me, otherwise they can leave the game (get down from the carousel)” and so it was. I put the one person who was causing the problem in a position to leave, and despite she had been able to get the entire team to back her actions, once she left everything started to go back to normal, actually it even got better than before. I became the team leader that I wanted to be simply by remaining myself and understanding that approval must be given by ourselves (by our person) and not by others who will/can always find fault(s) with us.
- Q: What major event or situation got you to know from your heart that it is ok to be yourself completely and how do you find inner harmony and peace with being you and the world outside of you, how do you respect you and others?
A: Every time I find an obstacle in my life, or simply an unkind act, the mere fact of being hurt makes me angry and increases my confidence (trust in me, strength to be me, and so on), because I understand that it is not worth it. Life is too beautiful and short to waste time with these things. And I think, if I successfully overcame that obstacle, I’ll successfully overcome this one too, and the next one, and so on. In the exact moment when I’m able to let everything slip by, to flow, I look around and I feel connected with what is beautiful. I respect others regardless of what they do or don’t do, with myself it is more difficult (I demand more, like many do with themselves), but I try to do the same, give me the same respect, with love.
- Q: What’s one piece of advice that you would give someone who’s having a hard time being themselves harmoniously and consistently through their actions, thoughts, and words in their every-day life; and how or what brought you to do this in your life?
A: Constructive self-criticism is my advice, to always ask yourself first, to understand, if you could do better by trying to think of oneself on the other side, in another’s shoes; to see oneself with/through others’ eyes. I noticed that by thinking in these terms it was easier for me to analyze myself and my attitudes, behaviors, actions, and to understood where I could improve, because in some things I could be misunderstood by others. I don’t care about making the mistakes, what ultimately matters is improving myself in a way that is better and diminishes misunderstandings in the future.
- Q: How does unconditional love for self, others and the world play a role in your life and you being yourself completely in who you are and what you do?
A: Living by loving unconditionally what you have and what you are makes you feel good.
- Q: Are there any things/areas about being yourself (your true self from the heart) that you choose not to share with others and the world? Would you share (with us) why this is, how you manage it from the heart and mind (emotionally and through your thoughts), if you foresee any transformation with this challenge or anything about it that you think others (who are also facing something similar) can learn from, find comfort in, and be helped with in knowing they’re not alone?
A: There are things that I choose not to share with anyone because they are only mine and precious. I want them to stay there. I can share my difficulty when I became a mother for the first time. My feelings were that I was always wrong and unable, I didn’t feel that I was succeeding at meeting up to the standards of being a mother. Seeing society that inculcates the perfection of love and happiness that a mother must feel with her baby. While a whole dark world, pain or sadness or fear, behind this role is just abnormal. It would be nice if we talked more about the negative experiences that can happen to a mother after giving birth (depression, doubt, fear, sadness, etc.). The transformation takes place, but you really have to believe in it, and it’s not always easy to get out of the dark (especially alone and when society makes it seem like you are the abnormal one instead of talking about what can happen in a neutral way to help mothers know that it’s ok, it’s normal, but it will be alright).
Part II Questions & Answers – Being Yourself and Your Life Endeavors
- Q: What do you do in life: as your life purpose, job, business, whatever “do” means to you that is the way you actively participate in and contribute to the world you live in, and the society you’re a part of?
A: In life I am a store manager and a chaotic (super busy) mom. I do it with infinite passion. When I work, the goal is to be able to give customers good moments. As a mother I hope to do well, I put all my love into it.
- Q: Does this “do” reflect who you are from the heart completely? If yes, how so? If not, how does this affect you from within, in your day-to-day life, and overall quality of life?
A: I think it reflects me because I do it with great passion. Transmitting my positive energy to others and sometimes feeling that it has come to those in front of me, that it has been received, this gives me a lot of satisfaction.
- Q: Are there other life endeavors (things you “do”, participate in, actively work on or pursue) that reflect who you are from the heart and bring forth the “mark” and transformation you want to see and leave in this world?
A: I’d like to do more for others, for the community, but at the moment I’m too busy. When the children grow up, I will devote myself to volunteering.
- Q: Was it challenging to find and establish harmony and abundance with being yourself and doing what you “do”, pursuing all the life endeavors you are actively involved in?
A: It is never easy to be in harmony with yourself, and you have to fall many times to then get back up again stronger, stronger than before and do it again. It is simply finding oneself involuntarily in situations where it was not expected and realizing in wonder that one is perfectly well in that world, that you are where you are meant to be and doing what you’re meant to be doing.
- Q: What part of what you “do” makes you most excited and proud? Why and how is this a success for you and the world?
A: I am excited about every single progress made by my children, and I am proud of the positive results at work. Every smile I can give is a success.