The topic of vulnerability and openly talking about the moments of vulnerability we experience in life came up in a couple of recent conversations; so I thought I’d share on this very important topic in the hopes of providing support to others who are contemplating similar aspects to what have come up in these conversations.
In one conversation, we talked about the challenge in describing a feeling to the point in which another person knows exactly what you’re going through and how you’re feeling; in another, the fact that it’s challenging to show and/or talk openly about vulnerability.
When it comes to expressing vulnerability through words, you are only limited in if you create a limit. Our vocabulary is rich in how and what words and ways we can describe things, but if you always think others won’t get the full picture then you’re putting up that barrier. The fact that someone can’t experience exactly what you experience when vulnerable holds truth as well because they are another person, they have different thought processes perhaps and ways of dealing with things; but if they are listening to you, it isn’t impossible for them to completely understand and feel what you feel. The debate (if you will) on this perspective also varies and as long as you believe it isn’t possible to be completely understood in how you feel that will always be the case no matter how good of a listener the person that you’re talking to is.
For the challenge in openly talking about vulnerability in the moment that you’re experiencing it a couple things need to be considered. There are plenty of people out there talking about being vulnerable, but when they’re going through it in that moment it is a time of great contemplation and need to “digest” those feelings, understand the situation, and regain a sense of stability before you are not overwhelmed by the emotions taking place so that you may talk about it openly. In that moment of vulnerability, if you have someone to talk to, it will be the person who will hear about your vulnerable moment in the “raw”, but for the world at large, it may be shared when you’re ready to talk about it.
In both cases, people do talk about vulnerabilities; the desire to feel completely understood in the moment comes from that state of vulnerability and therefore it is only normal to feel as if vulnerability is something people don’t talk about openly.
A moment of struggle is just that, and if you’re struggling, it is also a moment where you feel alone. But remember, you are never alone. There will be at least one person that will be there for you and if anything life is there with you to support you, guide you, and show you that everything is going to be ok.