Inner Growth Word of the Day: Revenge
Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (v.) 1. to avenge (oneself or another) usually by retaliating in kind or degree. 2. to inflict injury in return for.
Revenge in a sentence: Revenge is easy to spot, but what’s harder to find is the true depth and nature of this inside hurt that would bring someone to retaliate in such a way as to cause intentional discomfort of some sort to another.
Revenge in action: When someone causes pain or discomfort intentionally to avenge a wrong inflicted on them or another person (typically a loved one), that is revenge.
Revenge and inner growth: Exploring your acts of revenge (if you’ve ever taken it out on someone) allows you dig inside your wounds and find your hurt. The way you use these inner findings to pursue inner growth is to find your peace and harmony with them (with your hurt). Inflicting pain onto another doesn’t reduce or solve the pain one feels, which is why you look to your acts of revenge to understand the hurt and solve the void, and move forward. Hence, inner growth; otherwise it is only a person inflicting intentional pain onto another who is themselves suffering. For revenge taken out on you, understanding what happened and why the other person (who is enacting the revenge) feels hurt by you, is what can lead you to understand if there’s something you should change about your behavior or at least acknowledge that a type of action as the one taken (which hurt this individual) could hurt someone and cause them to seek out revenge on you.
Revenge and inner growth action steps:
- In-depth self-exploration questions: What do I think about revenge? Do I judge revenge and if so, how? Have I ever taken out revenge on someone? Has anyone taken revenge on me? What circumstances were involved in me taking out revenge and in another taking out revenge on me? How do I think either situation could have been different? What have I learned about myself from moments of revenge (taken or been subject to)? What has revenge taught me about myself? What about people? What does revenge tell me about the world?
- List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with revenge at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Now think of one episode where revenge was involved (whether it was you taking out revenge or someone taking it out on you) and write about it using the words from your list.
- Bring your awareness to your feelings about revenge and let them talk to you through your focus on those emotions. After a couple minutes if you’d like allow thoughts to come in and focus on the first thing that comes to mind. Let the feelings that arise keep you in that moment and maybe add some feelings in the mix that you’d like to experience with the thought you’re pondering.
Your turn – Share your revenge sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂