Moving beyond positive and negative judgements

Along this journey called life there are some that have a positive outlook, while others a negative one.  Even though I use these words, I do not believe they embody the true essence of what a positive or negative outlook entail.  Actually, I don’t believe they embody much, except for an initial thought that can bring about further exploration into that outlook.

For now, our world has a pretty dualistic view of things, this view stops at the surface of things and situations; it does not pursue the depth of each situation for each unique individual.  Humans, society, the world have had to find ways to group people, things and places so that we can function as a whole.  It’s hard to get anything to work without a system, without definitions, and decisions.  However, the reality is that each human being is more than just the words ascribed to them from the vocabulary established so far and from our dualistic system (good/bad, positive/negative).  Behind anything that happens there is much more than a positive outcome or a negative outcome, then good or bad.

Although there are many who still find comfort in dualism and do not venture off to talking about life in a way that tries to see the full depth of the situation or person; I also find that there are many who do see that there’s so much more that meets the eye when it comes to people and life.  Just look at how many are turning to meditation, the rise of leaders who are spiritual in nature (Deepak Chopra, Oprah Winfrey, Eckhart Tolle, Gregg Braden); by spiritual I don’t mean religious, but I mean those who are talking about humans and that deeper level that was pretty much hidden from us until now (hidden from the media and from our human eyes).

It is not positive or negative, it is not good or bad, it is more about encountering something you didn’t expect, it is more about feeling weighed down and like you have no escape from a situation, it is more like feeling there isn’t a place for you, it is more like trying to figure out how to feel secure and at ease when there are so many unknown factors ahead.  It is more about uncovering your purpose, meaning, and achieving things you hold in your heart.

I’ve never believed in good and bad, just different, more pleasant or less pleasant, choices of love or choices of fear.  Obviously, this type of thought doesn’t resonate with everyone and that’s ok because it’s not about bad or good, or positive or negative, but it’s about how you can overcome your frustrations, fears, weighed down feeling and get out of a rut if that’s where you’re at.

The reality is that those who believe they are chained down to and by the events and circumstances that happen to them aren’t reading this blog, they’re not even exploring such notions or if they are, they’re finding it very hard to believe that we, humans, have a choice and aren’t chained down to anything, but what we choose to have us chained down.

Those individuals with a negative outlook aren’t negative per se; they are simply weighed down by events that come their way.  They feel there is no escape and they’re stopping at what they see as their proof of that.

And they will say to someone who tries to tell them to believe that everything will work out, “I’m being realistic, stop dreaming.”

I’m sure you’ve heard that time and time again.  There is no changing someone’s outlook on life and their experiences, to someone who is in that negative mindset you can only offer unconditional love and support; as long as they don’t start imposing their challenges on you and stop you from pursuing your own inner growth and happiness.

 It is not right for anyone to impose their way or view on someone else or think they need to convince the other of their view because that’s what will bring them happiness.  Each individual has a journey and if they choose a negative outlook that is their choice, it is not up to anyone to judge it right or wrong.  And if you really want to help, then love and support are the only thing that will provide some comfort to those individuals.

For those who are struggling to believe in life and trust that everything will be alright and that these moments of discomfort are opportunities for inner growth, harmony and happiness; I say to you, it’s a process.  Up till now, we’ve been wired (so to speak) to see things as good or bad, to judge and categorize humans, identity, and things into sets of right and wrong.  To reach your balance, to lift that weight, you must start releasing these old ways of seeing things and the only way you’re going to do this is by applying your new found thought process to situations of discomfort, to situations and people you judge, to anything that comes your way and that you cringe at.  These are your opportunities to explore yourself, pursue inner growth as you do this, and rewire your brain to stop seeing only two sides of the coin, but instead to see the depth behind the surface of each situation of each individual.

It is known that each of us on earth is simply trying to pursue happiness, to understand our purpose, to reach the highest potential we can that makes us feel we are expressing everything we feel we are everyday of our life and in everything we do, and to live a good life.  When you start looking at the world from the depth that it is made up of, instead of stopping at the surface, then you will have begun an amazing journey that will also help those around you to catch a glimpse (at the very least) of the beauty that life entails.  There are no real chains, just our own chains.

What do you think about positive and negative outlooks?  About the dualistic view the world applies to things, events, people?


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