Inner Growth Word of the Day: Selfishness
Google’s Dictionary/Search definition: (n.) 1. the quality or condition of being selfish (selfish is another Inner Growth Word of The Day, but it’s never nice of dictionaries to use the same word to define a word; so, I’m also including part of the definition from Merriam-Webster of the word selfish, which is: concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself).
Selfishness in a sentence: An act of pure selfishness can say so much, but not when looked at from a place of judgement.
Selfishness in action: Selfishness is when someone does something that is seen as excessively or exclusively for oneself or if an action or decision brings about a result that focuses on oneself alone in an extreme way.
Selfishness and inner growth: Whether you’ve experienced or performed an act of selfishness the thought process to pursue inner growth is one where you remove judgement and/or the negative connotation attributed to selfishness. This allows you to remove hurt and tainted opinions. With clarity, you can explore what you did or the situation and understand if selfishness is a sign of something unresolved or missing within you or those who acted selfishly. You are also able to see beyond the situation, instead of focusing on feeling wronged.
Selfishness and inner growth action steps:
- In-depth exploration questions: When selfishness doesn’t hurt anyone, the questions focus on you, others who acted selfishly or the situation that arose from selfishness. What you want to understand is if selfishness stems from a need. So, questions like am I doing this to accumulate more, have more, be more? Or is this something that I’m doing or others are doing simply for my or their best interest? Now, if someone was wronged by you or you by the situation, or by others due to selfishness, then intent comes into play. If intent is part of the mix, the questions need to also include why you had this need to hurt someone else, or if it’s selfishness by others, why they would intentionally hurt you. Answers like, “just because” or “because they’re evil” won’t bring you anywhere with inner growth. If intent was not part of the mix, this opens you up to questions like how could I or others not see this consequence? Or what can I do next time to avoid hurting someone?
- List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with selfishness at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. Do the same for selfishness – intent to hurt and selfishness – no intent to hurt. When you’re done with all three, write three separate short stories; and then find the differences and similarities between them. You’ll be surprised at how different selfishness can be with or without intent to hurt someone even though the act is the same. This exercise will also help you gain awareness of this difference in your day to day.
- Bring your awareness to your feelings throughout the exploration process of selfishness and try to notice if you’re feeling sad, angry or if you have mixed feelings, like there’s still something missing with the picture. If this is the case keep digging until you feel like you’ve found your answers.
Your turn – Share your selfishness sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂