Do you trust in life?

Do you trust in life?

When it comes to trust, we have one of those intriguing topics.  People say they trust others and life, but when faced with doubt or struggle, that trust becomes fragile.  The level of trust depends on each individual; and when it comes to trust given to a person, that then depends on the relationship and the things that have happened throughout the duration of that relationship.  But when it comes to life, it seems like trust is constantly at play depending on a number of factors including the person themselves.

While in a relationship with another person, you can pinpoint specific events and reasons why trust is given or taken away, with life it has a lot to do with your trust in life.  When something happens that puts off your plan, particularly those events that seem catastrophic in nature; it is in this moment that your trust in life is tested.  Fears are overcome through reassurance, and this can come from seeking guidance and/or help from others, from your past experiences, and from signs that are tangible to you that things are moving in the right direction and that there’s nothing to be afraid of.  However, each time you’re faced with a challenge the same ups and downs can take place, and this is where you find out how much trust you really have in life.

The beauty of life is its unpredictable nature, that same nature means we have no certainty.  This is why trust in life depends on a feeling, your feeling.  Every time you face a challenge and overcome it, that can be an experience that strengthens your trust in life; but your inclination to trust life comes first and directs your thought process to consider that experience as an experience and not a catastrophe.

It’s like seeing the glass half full or half empty; whichever predisposition you have is what will strengthen.  If you trust life, your “catastrophic” moments will become less and less “catastrophic” as time passes.  If on the other hand, you are shaken from life and don’t trust it, each “catastrophe” will be that and life will not be ok.  You can gain trust in life thanks to the things that do go well, but if deep down inside uncertainty is what stays, anytime life throws you a curveball you’ll get hit.

It’s a matter of what you feel in your heart and differentiating if what’s in your heart is fear or an actual threat to your life in those challenging moments.  To give blind trust is said to be tough; and when it comes to life, it is somewhat blind trust that we’re being asked to give, since life is uncertain.

What do you think about trust in life, and what level of trust do you give it?

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Do things come to an end in life or maybe

When something that you’ve been used to or have had in your life for so long comes to an end, how you handle it makes a huge difference in how you welcome the new, but also in how you feel as the old passes by.  We’re so used to being told how much we will mourn departing from something we’re used to that we’re not really prepared to look at it with a lighter heart, maybe even a bit of an excited heart.

As long as there is life, there is movement.  This also means that even though things may seem the same, they aren’t ever exactly the same in all the details of that moment.  In small doses, we are ok with endings or better said, we’re ok with endings that don’t look like endings.  However, a complete stop, all of a sudden, of something familiar to us is not welcome at a first instance.  This is where you can test your boundaries if you wish to do so and try to approach “endings” from a different angle.

With life experiences bringing about changes, those “endings” are really the next step to your new beginnings.  However, they are also a continuation of your life even though they may look different and as if they have ended.

Another way you could approach “endings,” if you aren’t of the idea that they continue with you, is through the acceptance of the fact that as your life moves forward, some things can’t move forward with you exactly as they are.  If you are 30, you can’t expect to still be in first grade, can you?  So, you accept this notion, but don’t mourn it, since you know it is part of what comes before what’s next.  As we get older, it seems we forget this idea. Instead, if we keep it in the forefront, we expect “endings” to happen because we don’t really see them as endings at all, but just stepping stones in life.

It always comes down to perception of course.  What we choose to see and how we see life, as well as the things that happen to us.  If you want to see “endings” as endings, then that’s great too.  It’s using your endings though to strengthen your beginnings that you want to achieve as you go through life.  So if you do anything with endings in your life, celebrate their existence and the way they were able to prepare you for what comes next.

What do you think about “endings”?  How do you see them in your life?

What do you see when you think about the things that have changed in your life

When you think about the things that have changed in your life, what do you see?  Do you stop to notice the types of traits you’ve acquired, some of the changes that have taken place to other traits that you thought would always be the same?  Do you stop to see the transformation that has taken place within following what you’ve experienced outside of you through life?

It’s quite easy to see the things that change in our outside world: career, household, people in our lives, acquired knowledge, income, etc.; but for the inside the lines aren’t always that clear nor should they be.  Since your essence is without form, even though it may be defined a certain way by those outside of you, it can take any shape or form it would like.  Although, the world has its generalizations, when it comes to how you are inside, it’s up to you to paint your picture.

You don’t only paint your picture, but you also know the true colors that make up your picture.  Personally, when I look at changes to the inside, I see more of a transformation than a change per se.  People I’ve known for many years have “changed” somewhat, but they essentially are the same in those pieces that make up their foundation.  Those components of them have through time and life experiences gotten them to be more of that one thing or less of it, but the component is still there.  So for example, someone who tends to take on very difficult challenges and be hard on themselves if they don’t succeed the way they wanted to; in time they have gotten a bit softer on themselves, but they still hold themselves to getting things done.

I like to think that life shares with us experiences that can help us dig deep and think about how we’re thinking, behaving, or feeling.  For sure, it seems like a trend for people as they get older to “soften” and be more patient with themselves, as well as with life.  On the other hand, there are plenty of older people that I know who are not patient at all, so it really depends.  All I do know, is that if you stop to take a look at your traits from inside, I know you’ll be able to see the transformations that have taken place so far thanks to life.  Some you may like, others you may not, and to those that you don’t like, I would say it’s a good place to start asking questions and seeing what you can do to change them.

What do you think about life and the changes and/or transformations that have come about?  Did you ever expect it to be this way?

Stepping outside your comfort zone without staying stuck in the uncomfortable feeling

Pushing yourself to do something that’s outside of your comfort zone can help you take steps forwards in different areas of your life.  I’m not talking about something that can hurt somebody or yourself, but something outside of your comfort zone that you don’t want to do because maybe you think you can’t do it or simply because you’ve always never done it.  The situations I’m talking about take place kind of naturally, life brings them about and gives you the opportunity to contemplate taking that step.

Obviously, no one likes to put themselves willingly in such a situation nor should day, and at the end of the day, if you choose not to take the leap, then that’s fine too.  However, as the unwanted situation is presented and taking place in those days and moments of your life, you’ll find yourself going through an array of emotions and thinking a number of thoughts.  It is in this moment that you can use the opportunity to learn more about yourself, make a transformation if you choose to do so, and even take on the uncomfortable situation and make it no longer uncomfortable.

When it comes to ourselves, there’s this doubt that creeps up about our abilities or our worthiness.  It’s not because we are necessarily insecure, but because human tendency is to go to what they know and steer clear of what they don’t know.  If life presents that uncomfortable situation, which it does many times throughout our lifetime, then it means we’re ready to take another step and expand our knowledge of what great things we can do.

All of this to say that in your moments of doubt and resistance to something new that has come along, as you are feeling those feelings of stress and anxiety you have an opportunity to share with yourself love and belief that you can succeed.  You can also contemplate your options, ask yourself why you think this opportunity is something you should take and why not.  Go even further, by asking yourself if the only reason for your refusal of the opportunity is because you think you can’t do it or if it is actually something you know for a fact you can’t do or just won’t be good at.

Thanks to this type of exploration you will also have thought of a number of alternative solutions to the uncomfortable one you are facing, and that in itself is another huge leap forward for your life.  You’ll have found alternatives to what you now know for sure you don’t want versus just being upset at being put in that situation.  If you choose to take on the challenge of doing something you don’t think you can do then you will transform your feelings about that thing and it will no longer be outside of your comfort zone.

However you put it, thanks to those uncomfortable decisions, if you sit down and allow them a little space in your mind you will gain a lot from them in regards to insights on who you are and what you know you really want; you will have reminded yourself that you are worthy and that you choose not to do something because you have thought it through; you also challenge yourself to expand your comfort zone if you take on the situation; and lastly, you moved away from the uncomfortable feeling and into a contemplative feeling where your thoughts shape the rest.

What do you think about stepping outside your comfort zone?  How has it helped you and how do you see it helping others?

Overcoming that heavy feeling that weighs you down

One of the feelings people talk about when they’re going through one of those really tough moments in life is that heavy feeling that weighs you down.  That feeling you get in your chest, the one that feels like there is this heavy something that is compressing against your heart and that makes you feel like your body is so heavy it’s about to break the ground.  It isn’t just about the weighed down feeling either, it’s also the accompanied feelings of loss and/or despair (depending on the situation) that make this moment even more challenging.  So, how can someone make that moment better?  And how can someone work on overcoming it in the long run?

The mind is a beautiful thing because it is what can allow us to help ourselves, especially in those heavy feeling, weighed down moments.  Now, the first thing you want to do is to explore what you do when you’re in that funk.  What do you think about?  Does your mind wonder off to heavy thoughts or does it think of uplifting and lighter thoughts?  Knowing this and acting on this will immediately take some of that weight off. If you’re feeling weighed down by life and you build up on that with more stuff, you are automatically adding weight.  Also, the tendency for every one of us is to go that route; I mean, if you’re in a bad mood, happy thoughts don’t just magically appear (at first).  This is why it takes you wanting to lift the weight, and putting in the initial effort to stop the same thought pattern from taking place when you’re in a funk.

With the knowledge of what pattern your thoughts take, you’ve maintained or at least not added to that heavy feeling.  If you have never done this, it will take some time and you must be patient with yourself.  Getting upset isn’t going to help you lift any heavy feeling, but it will only add to it.  Once you feel good with how you’re doing at breaking the heavy thought pattern, you want to move on to exploring the why of that heavy feeling that weighs you down.

There’s always a why, somewhere deep down; there’s a why this situation or that person triggered this heavy feeling.  The why is our own belief or our own judgement, or our own something.  Once again, our mind is the creator and only by looking for answers within will you find solutions that work for you and with the external.

Lifting the heavy feeling that weighs us down is no easy task.  It is very much like lifting weights if you think about it.  The more you lift weights, the more your muscles strengthen and the more they can do and lift easily.  The more you uplift yourself by avoiding additional heavy feeling thoughts and the more you look inside to understand why you feel so heavy, and resolve those whys with yourself; the sooner you’ll have overcome that heavy feeling that weighed you down.

What has been your experience with those heavy feeling weighed down moments in life?  How did you overcome them?

What do you believe in and how do you handle the opposite?

Life has its ups and downs because things stay in motion as long as we are alive.  Usually the things that bring us down are things we hold to our heart, disagree with or take personally due to its impact in our life.  It always comes down to our belief, what’s in our peripheral view and how it touches our own lives.  This is what makes life so challenging sometimes, interacting with the events outside of you and trying to come to terms with them when disharmony takes place.

Attributing good or bad to the things you believe in and the things that happen outside of you don’t solve how you feel in that moment or what is happening necessarily.  Let me point out, I am not talking about the societal system or laws or politics, this is for beliefs and events that take place within your life and that you deal with on an emotional level.

When you know what you believe in, you set the stage for expectations and desires; which automatically produces the opposite or different than what you want and have/will come to expect as you continue living life with your belief as your perspective on everything and anything that comes your way.  We talked about struggle last week, and today I ask you to focus on your belief and to think about how it plays a role in everything that is opposite of what you believe in and want, and have come to expect for yourself.

The hypothetical is not a doomsday situation, but rather an internal situation of frustration or anger that comes and goes through time.  It is influenced by how you look at the opposite, what feelings you focus on for long periods of time, what thoughts you lean towards, what conclusions you come to, and if you decide to keep going and let go of having the opposite change when there is nothing you can do to change it.

What you believe in will always be a part of you, but how you choose to handle what is opposite of that internally affects your day to day by affecting your mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing.  This is why it’s so important to be able and let go.  Holding on to certain emotions doesn’t help you move forward.  Your beliefs can get you far, but only if they are what you choose to allow to lead the way in your day to day decisions.  If you’ve got the opposite events running the show by being up front and center (in your day to day view), then that is what you will see and that is what, no matter your belief, your life will be.

Handling those things that are opposite of what we believe in comes as a challenge because of their closeness to who we are and how we would like to lead our life, etc.  This is why they are the most challenging to understand; but also why they are what open us up to our deepest inner self, which in turn allows us to make humongous strides when it comes to self-completion and life harmony.

What do you think about what you believe in and handling the opposite, and how this affects your life?

Why does there have to be struggle in life

How many of you think struggle is part of life?  That if you want to get something or somewhere, you have to fight for it?  How many of you believe everything happens without having to fight to conquer it all?  That things happen quite naturally, as long as movement is in place?  Or how about that process and achieving something naturally takes time to evolve and come to fruition, that is all?

I ask these questions because at the bottom of struggle in life is this belief that you have to work for what you want to achieve otherwise you won’t get anywhere.  It’s not the sentence in itself, of course there is “work” behind every action if you’re going to get from place A to Z, but the weight given to “work,” as if it’s this insurmountable obstacle and that the road is going to be so arduous and painful; that added feeling is brought about by the way part of the world decided to portray this idea of working to get what you want.

A good portion of people in this world promote the struggle life notion that many people feel everyday and use to acknowledge what their journey will be like.  I still recall going through it myself; the internal heaviness that came from contemplating all the decisions I had made up till that moment and seeing only a fraction of where I had envisioned myself being after doing that.  This feeling did not motivate me, maybe the quotes and inspirational messages of people who had climbed their mountain did; but all my moment did was drain me of energy and make me feel powerless.  As life started showing signs of me being on the right path by materializing situations and events, it dawned on me that struggle didn’t have to be part of the equation.  It wasn’t that heavy feeling that helped me get anywhere, it was me steadily pursuing what I believed in wholeheartedly.  It was that simple; and in that moment of realization, a weight was lifted off my shoulders and everything became so much easier from there on.

I share this tidbit in the hopes that it helps you reflect on your struggles and realize that it doesn’t have to be that way, that heavy.  There may be those who advocate tough insurmountable challenges or maybe it is because of that toughness that you are pursuing your goals.  There are people who thrive in the extreme opposite feeling conditions (high stress, high reward).  If that’s the case, this means struggle is in tune with you and part of what will help you get where you want in life.  But if you notice that you’re not a life struggle type person, that your day to day struggles bring you down and drain you of your energy, you can change the scenario.  It takes some time and self-awareness, refraining from seeing everything as a battle, and entrusting your thoughts to life and your inner knowledge of what your path is meant to be.  All you have to do is make a choice and go from there.

Whether you’re a person who chooses struggle in life or belief in life, you will get to where you’re meant to be, you will achieve all that is going to be a part of your life.  It’s simply a matter of time.

What do you think about struggle in life?