A blab story to overcome not speaking up

A blab story to overcome not speaking up

There’s a new social media platform that I’ve found really amazing for the potential it has in allowing people to connect and talk about topics of interest.  It’s a bit like Google Hangouts, but better.  It’s called blab and you create an account by logging in with your Twitter account (so technically you don’t have to set up a totally new social media account).  It allows you to host your own blab, schedule blabs and participate in other blabs (live ones), but also watch recorded ones.  Up to four people can join the blab on video and talk, plus there’s a chat area where you can write and submit questions.

I was on my third blab on Saturday, it was held by Stephen Heywood (a podcaster, broadcaster and tech guru), who you should definitely check out if you’re thinking about doing a podcast.  On the blab there was also Brian Aldridge (a computer consultant); and the topic was around podcasting, as well as taking care of your website and setting it up in a secure way for your users/listeners (which is where Brian‘s expertise came in handy).  I’m sharing a bit of background to introduce to you two awesome people, who you will also find helpful if you are looking to do something related to website or podcasting/broadcasting; but I also need to share this tidbit to set up what I want to share in this post.  So please, bear with me 🙂

As Stephen and Brian talked about podcasting and site security and upkeep, I had a question that I posted in the chat; but as the conversation kept going, more questions came to mind.  I held back from calling in because I was concerned I might interrupt the flow of the conversation, but also because I wasn’t sure I’d be welcome.  Luckily, I love chatting and socializing; so I thought to myself, what’s the worst that can happen; they make it clear that they don’t want me there?  It’s worth a shot.  Additionally, the way blab is set up makes it clear that it’s meant to get people to join in the conversation; that’s why there are the four call in slots.  Plus, blab hosts can choose to lock the open call in spaces if they don’t want others calling in.

I called in and the conversation lasted quite some time.  In fact once it was over, I noticed that Stephen and other blab chat participants had tweeted a bunch of GIFs; you should’ve seen some of my expressions haha.  Anyways.  The takeaways I wanted to share through this story (experience) are a few that I think we face not only in a scenario like blab conversations, but also in life.

  • Don’t be afraid to join in on a conversation.  Whether it’s through an online chat or in a group situation, if you have something to say, say it.  There’s no reason why you shouldn’t, and even if what you have to say isn’t welcome, it’s not the end of the world.  Someone who will judge you for sharing an opinion doesn’t make what you have to say any less valid.  Furthermore, you never know the amazing people you could meet if you don’t try to interact with them.  I’ve found that most people are happy to engage in conversation.  The ones who aren’t, well, that’s their choice and you simply won’t interact with them following your first approach; but to miss out on the opportunity because of fear is a pity because there are a lot of beautiful people out there.
  • Genuine individuals who are just as interested in what others have to say and don’t consider others’ opinions any less valid than their own are all around us.  They are easily identifiable too.  You can tell by the way they interact with others and by how they talk, their choice of words.  The more down to earth, the more they are likely to enjoy others joining in.  Also, even if they are a leader or expert in their field, the true leaders will always welcome others to share.  They are a leader because of their support in helping others to grow and see their own value.  A truly knowledgeable person knows that every person has something to share, something insightful and interesting to contribute; even if they disagree with the opinion being shared.

Whether you’re looking to share something with a group of colleagues, superiors or peers; or if you’re wanting to interact with others online, like in a blab setting, don’t be afraid to do so.  Give value to what you have to say, it is no less important than what others are saying.  If you discredit your own thoughts, you’re really not being fair to yourself; and if you find a person who makes you feel stupid, it doesn’t mean you are, that’s you allowing someone else to make you feel that way.  As long as you believe in what you have to say, your words will have meaning.

How have you overcome moments where you want to say something, but hold back because you’re intimidated?

 

 

“Trust in your journey, for everything that comes your way will add something to your life…” ~ FNM

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Staying calm when angry can avoid getting burnt and results in positive living

In response to an interesting point on anger made by @affirmyourlife on Twitter (@affirmyourlife: Speak when you are angry and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret. – Dr. Laurence J. Peter), which I replied to (@luna12780: “That is very, very true…unless one is able to maintain their calm and clarity even while angry.”), my #inspirational #quote of the day (on anger) was born:

Anger under control doesn't burn - photo by FNM

Anger under control doesn’t burn – photo by FNM

“Anger can burn us in and out. Learn to care for your fires. This way they will keep you warm, but not burn you.” – FNM

What are your thoughts? Do you feel calm even when angry or do you lose control?  Have you ever met anyone who can stay calm although they are angry?