Inner Growth Word of The Day 142 – Inner drive

May 22

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Inner drive

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: inner – (adj.) within and/or of or relating to the mind or spirit; drive – (v.) 5 a. to exert inescapable or coercive pressure on.  5 d. to press or force into an activity, course, or direction.

 

Inner drive in a sentence: Your inner drive is what gets you to take action and it’s what gives a voice to the things you desire most.

 

Inner drive in action: When the things you do are actions that come from the heart, that’s inner drive.

 

Inner drive and inner growth: Knowing what your inner drive is brings you to pursue inner growth because it is this type of exploration that allows you to know if you are leading from within or not.  You also identify those things which force you to take action; with this awareness, you can also explore these things individually and in doing so gain even further insight into what drives you and if it really comes from within.

 

Inner drive and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What does inner drive mean to me? When was the first time I thought about what my inner drive was?  How has my inner drive affected the things I do?  What learning lessons has my inner drive imparted on me so far?  How has my inner drive affected my life?  Who or what influences my inner drive?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with inner drive at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick one word and think about one instance where inner drive was present.  Use the word you chose to expand on the story and explore how or why this specific word made you think of this specific moment in your life.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about inner drive and let them flow from head to toe without thinking, just feeling. As this happens bring your mind to your heart and visualize your breathing in and out, notice how this focus affects your emotions, and when you’re ready let thoughts come in.  Pay attention to the first thought that comes to mind and allow the feelings from it to speak for this thought.

 

Your turn – Share your inner drive sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

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Inner Growth Word of The Day 141 – Disappointment

May 21

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Disappointment

 

Google’s Dictionary/Search definition: (n.) 1 a. the feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the nonfulfillment of one’s hopes or expectations. 1 b. a person, event, or thing that causes disappointment.

 

Disappointment in a sentence: Disappointment can vary in how it affects each person, but one commonality is that it is always followed by a period of reflection and thought.

 

Disappointment in action: When you’ve worked so hard to obtain something or bring about a certain conclusion and things turn out differently, disappointment can happen.

 

Disappointment and inner growth: What disappointment brings to inner growth is the opportunity to reflect on one’s desires and expectations; and also, decide how to approach those unfulfilled events.  How flexible are you to change or how many different ways are you going to test before changing route?  Why is it so important to get that one thing to feel fulfilled?  This type of exploration is also very helpful in handling disappointment.

 

Disappointment and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What is disappointment to me? When was the first time I experienced disappointment?  What types of disappointments have I been through?  What have I learned about life from disappointment?  How has disappointment affected my relationships?  What is one way disappointment has changed me?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with disappointment at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Now pick three words from your list and write down the one thing related to disappointment that they all bring to mind to you.  From this thing that you thought of, what specific event where you experienced disappointment comes to mind?  Next use the words from your first list to write about this experience.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about disappointment and allow your emotions to flow from head to toe. Notice where the feelings are stemming from in your body and where they are going.  As you do this in silence, think about a happy thought and see what event where disappointment was involved comes to mind alongside this happy thought.  At this point allow this event to speak to you through the feelings that it brings about within.

 

Your turn – Share your disappointment sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 140 – Missing

May 20

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Missing

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) absent or lost.

 

Missing in a sentence: When you feel like something is missing, it brings about times of thought.

 

Missing in action: An absence of something in your life or within you is something missing.

 

Missing and inner growth: When there is an absence within one’s life this can’t go unnoticed indefinitely, so at a certain point exploration comes about to understand what this absence means, why is it there or if it’s something concrete, what actions one can take to resolve the absence.  All of these actions bring about inner growth through you finding what you’re missing, even if that finding is arriving at the conclusion that nothing is missing.

 

Missing and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What does missing mean to me? How does it feel to have something missing?  What have I learned from missing something?  When was the first time I felt like something was missing in my life?  What actions do I take when I find out that something is missing, but I can resolve this by doing something about it?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with missing at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. With this list take three words that stand out to you and from those three words write one word that represents how these three words make you feel.  From the one word, think of an incident where something was missing and write about this incident using the words from your first list.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about missing something and let them flow throughout you.  As you feel these emotions notice where they are coming from and where they go or seem to focus in your body.  When you’re ready try to visualize a warm feeling of comfort come about and embrace all those feelings, then release those accumulated areas where your emotions seem to be focusing around.  When you’re ready also allow thoughts to come in and focus on the first thing that comes to mind, allowing those feelings to speak to you.

 

Your turn – Share your missing sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 139 – Generous

May 19

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Generous

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) 2 a. characterized by a noble or kindly spirit.  2 b. liberal in giving.

 

Generous in a sentence: When someone is generous they tend to also have a giving heart.

 

Generous in action: Giving to others, to those less fortunate and even to those who have wronged you is being generous.

 

Generous and inner growth:  Being generous is something that reveals a lot about you and when you take a closer look at the times when you are generous and when you’re not, you can pursue inner growth by understanding why that is and take action to change those things you wish to transform.

 

Generous and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: How do I define being generous? Has my definition of generous changed in time?  What are some of the actions I’ve taken thanks to my generous nature?  How has being generous affected my relationships?  How has it affected my life?  When was the first time I was generous to a perfect stranger?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with generous at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Now pick three words and next to each, put one incident in your life when you were generous.  Expand on each incident by using the words from the first list.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about being generous and allow your emotions to take the lead and alert you. After a couple minutes allow your thoughts to come in and focus on the thought that stands out the most.  Pick the thought that gave you the strongest feeling out of them all.

 

Your turn – Share your generous sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 138 – Empathy

May 18

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Empathy

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 2. the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner.

 

Empathy in a sentence: To have empathy is something that helps people to understand each other; this includes understanding how they’re feeling about something or what they’re thinking in regards to a specific experience.

 

Empathy in action: When you are aware of what someone else is experiencing without having been told what they are feeling or thinking, this is empathy.

 

Empathy and inner growth: Empathy helps you to understand others, which also means you can apply that same understanding to yourself.  This ability helps inner growth because it allows you to apply external experiences to yourself and in doing so you are not only able to support others better, but also yourself.

 

Empathy and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What does empathy mean to me? How has empathy helped me in my relationships?  What have been some of my biggest life takeaways from experiencing empathy?  When was the first time I thought about empathy?  When did I first feel empathy for someone? How has empathy assisted me in making life decisions?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with empathy at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Now think about one situation where empathy was involved and use the first list to write about this situation.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about empathy and allow your feelings to flow. Notice what types of emotions come from your heart and allow those feelings to express themselves fully.  When you’re ready allow thoughts to come in and focus on the first thought that came to mind.

 

Your turn – Share your empathy sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

How can you handle your frustration to make it better

Frustration gets the best of you if you let it.  When you’re frustrated it feels good to vent and let it out, but what happens if that frustration isn’t dealt with?  It just sits there and the feeling isn’t pretty.  It’s a vicious cycle to just let your frustration repeat itself over and over again.  Even though the situation may pass and you won’t get frustrated for some time, the same situation could present itself again; and then what?  You get upset again, and start all over.  If on the other hand, you take that frustration and try to deal with it; you will not only learn something about yourself, but you will also stop the repeat cycle.

Frustrations come about because something happens that you don’t like or don’t want.  Someone pushes your buttons or a day you had planned to the last detail ends up going in a totally different direction (just because, or maybe because of something or someone else).  The first thing to do in a situation where frustration arises is to take a step back and remember that for one, what’s done is done.  Whatever just happened that caused your frustration is already in the past.  Now, it’s up to you to take a closer look at yourself and understand what is causing the frustration.

If your frustration is based on the actions of another person, you need to keep in mind that you can’t control people’s actions.  You should also know that your frustration arises from what you believe that person should have done or not done.  This isn’t to say that you’re in the wrong, but when two people come together to do something (or just by chance) it’s only normal that there could be different behaviors, responses, and actions to the same situation.  In understanding what you expected from the situation you can talk yourself through the frustration and make plans for future scenarios that are similar to the one you just experienced.

When frustration arises from an incident, but where nobody else was involved, it is up to you to remember that another thing you don’t control include events outside of you.  Frustration won’t help you change what just happened, but after sharing the moment with someone move on to the exploration.  Find out what exactly ticked you off and think about how you could prepare for a similar event or change your reaction.

The only reason you’re reading this blog is if you’re interested in transforming your frustration so that you can move passed it and try to minimize or even get rid of that frustration altogether moving forward.  It isn’t bad to get frustrated, but it doesn’t do much for you either.  By taking your frustration and using it to understand yourself better, as well as deciding on what actions you’d like to take if the same things happen (instead of getting frustrated); you allow yourself to meet life’s unexpected events with a calmer attitude.

How do you deal with frustration and what are some ways you moved passed it?

Inner Growth Word of The Day 137 – Compassion

May 17

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Compassion

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it.

 

Compassion in a sentence: Sometimes it is easier to feel compassion when you’ve been through a similar situation as the person you’re showing compassion to.

 

Compassion in action: When you share understanding and want to give support in a difficult situation that someone else is going through, that is compassion.

 

Compassion and inner growth: How much compassion you have towards others and the situations they go through reveals the degree to which you can put yourself in another person’s shoes, but also how considerate you are for others.  Understanding where this consideration comes from and how you are able to relate to others to whatever the degree is, helps you gain an understanding of yourself; but also can bring you to work on those areas so that you may expand your compassion towards more and more people.  This type of exploration brings about inner growth since there’s getting to know your compassion from your heart, and also those attributes which may not be from your heart and therefore reveal changes you may choose to make moving forward.

 

Compassion and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: How do I feel about compassion? When did I first consider how compassionate or not I was towards others?  Who introduced me to compassion?  What was one of my first experiences with compassion that left a mark?  In what ways do I show compassion?  How have others shown compassion to me and in what circumstances?  Are there different levels of compassion for different situations?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with compassion at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From your list pick two words that stand out the most and for one of the words think of a situation where you showed compassion to others, write it down. Then do the same with the second word, but this time list a situation where someone showed compassion towards you.  Write about both instances and use the words from your first list in them.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about compassion and center those feelings in your heart. As the emotions that flow warm your heart center, allow thoughts to come to mind and notice what the first thought is.  Focus on that thought and see what feelings this one brings about, but this time let those emotions flow from your heart to the rest of your body.

 

Your turn – Share your compassion sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂