Inner Growth Word of The Day 196 – Follower

July 15

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Follower

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 1 b. one that follows the opinions or teachings of another.  1 c. one that imitates another.

 

Follower in a sentence: Everyone can be a follower depending on the circumstance.

 

Follower in action: A person who acts a certain way that is a behavior taken from another or having an opinion on something that is acquired by another is a follower.

 

Follower and inner growth: Noticing those areas where you are a follower in behavior and/or thought brings you to ask yourself why and understand why.  This process leads to inner growth since it allows you to either acquire that behavior and/or thought process completely and truly because it resonates with you or decide to drop it with the knowledge that it was never yours to begin with.

 

Follower and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What does it mean to me to be a follower? How has the follower in me played a role in who I am today?  When did I first think about the things I did as a follower of someone or something?  When am I a follower?  Do I judge followers?  If so, how and why?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with follower at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list think of three situations where the follower in you came out and use the words from your list to write about the situation that made the biggest impact in your life.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about follower aspects within you and let those emotions flow noticing where they come from and where they go. If your feelings seem to settle in certain places visualize them moving on and flowing like a river.  When you’re ready allow thoughts to come in and notice what events come to mind, as well as which ones cause a bigger emotional response within you.

 

Your turn – Share your follower sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

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Inner Growth Word of The Day 195 – Instinctual

July 14

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Instinctual

 

Google’s Dictionary/Search definition: (adj.) relating to or denoting an innate, typically fixed pattern of behavior; based on instinct.

 

Instinctual in a sentence: When something is instinctual it’s automatic and not something you think about until after the fact.

 

Instinctual in action: If a specific situation produces the same behavior and/or action that is instinctual.

 

Instinctual and inner growth: Taking a look at those traits and tendencies that are instinctual bring about inner exploration that can lead to a certain level of awareness of your tendencies in that moment.  This type of insight allows inner growth because you can gain deeper knowledge of that instinctual pattern.

 

Instinctual and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What are some of my instinctual traits? When was the first time I thought about instinctual patterns I have?  How have my instinctual tendencies affected my life?  What role do my instinctual behaviors have on my relationships?  Are there any instinctual tendencies that I judge or want to change?  If so, why?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with instinctual at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick three words and think of one event where your instinctual patterns played a role in the outcome of the situation.  Write about this event with the rest of the words from your list.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about instinctual traits and tendencies, and allow them to flow within you. Take notice of the types of emotions that come to be and see where they go.  When you’re ready allow thoughts to come in and pay close attention to what instinctual traits come to mind, next focus on the emotions that each trait that comes to mind brings about within you.

 

Your turn – Share your instinctual sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 194 – Process

July 13

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Process

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 2 a1. a natural phenomenon marked by gradual changes that lead toward a particular result.

 

Process in a sentence: Life is a series of ongoing processes for as long as you are alive.

 

Process in action: When transformation takes place, even if it’s a slight change of color or behavior, that change involved a process.

 

Process and inner growth: Pausing to look at the processes that have taken place in your life gets you to really understand that there’s always some sort of transformation happening, even with the foundation always being what it is; the minor molds and tweaks refine who you are and this process takes place as you live life, which in turn also brings inner growth.

 

Process and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: How has process affected my life? What process have I gone through that had a huge impact in who I am today?  When was the first time I thought about the processes I go through in life?  Why is process important to me?  Do I judge process?  How has process affected my relationships?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with process at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Now pick one word from this list and think about a specific process you’ve been through that stands out for what came next.  Use the remaining words from your list to write about this event.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about process and allow them to navigate throughout you, noticing where most of your emotions are coming from, as well as where they seem to go. As you do this keep your mind focused on an image that soothes you and when you feel like your feelings are evenly distributed within you, allow thoughts to come in and notice what processes you’ve been through come to mind.

 

Your turn – Share your process sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Overcoming insecurities and removing external definitions

Overcoming insecurities and removing external definitions

Typically, we all get defined by our loved ones as we grow up.  You know, those comments that end up defining you as the talker of the family or the neat freak or the nagger, and so on.  While these traits can be a part of who you are, they don’t have to define you in such a way as to make you insecure or self-conscious.  Yet, they do affect each one of us in a way that makes us justify or excuse our behavior in numerous circumstances.  If it only stopped there that would be fine, but these definitions of us also end up affecting what we do or don’t do.

When you’ve been told for most of your life that you’re a certain way (whatever the traits and behaviors you’ve been ascribed) you also think that maybe you can’t do something because of it, and this is where these external definitions stop you from doing something.  But the little component that stops you for good is you, which is why you need to remove these external noises.  The only way you’re going to do this is if you stop thinking these traits are something you need to remove or something that need to be justified.  So, how do you do this?

For starters, recognizing that many of the definitions (vices and virtues) of you come from others.  By others I mean loved ones and guides.  This includes parents (first and foremost), siblings, teachers, friends, and colleagues to name a few.  With this knowledge, you can now move on to recognizing when you’re getting on your own case because of something someone else has told you is a “bad” thing or is something that could be avoided.

We all have had these situations where we stop ourselves or think about something we’re doing in a way where we make an excuse and justify why we’re doing what we’re doing.  It’s in these instances that you should remember that the only reason you’re justifying yourself is because someone has told you that you do this too much or that you should stop doing this because it’s not a good thing.  You become self-conscious and this makes any insecurities you may have regarding yourself that much more present.

This heightened insecurity then brings about a feeling of lack or not good enough or maybe just a tiny doubt about yourself; no matter how big or small, it stops you from being yourself 100%.  You hold back because you have your loved ones’ repetitive voice in your head telling you to get rid of that habit, to stop doing that thing, or just that you’re too much of this or that.

Once you sit down with yourself and ask if you’re ok with being that “too much” or “too little” then it’s up to you to come to your defense the next time your insecurity arises and you hear those voices, those comments, that allow doubt to creep in.  Stop in that moment and remind yourself that you’re ok with that trait, that you accept it and it is others who are different and that this is ok.  It’s ok to be different and at the end of the day, the comments that these loved ones have made are based on their personalities, their perspective, their behaviors.

Another thing you could do in addition to helping yourself overcome these external definitions and stop having them hang over you and keep you from being you is to in turn stop doing this very thing to someone else.  If you define your loved ones or anyone and tell them why they shouldn’t have that trait or that they have too much of that trait, remember how you feel about this exact same situation and keep the comment to yourself.  Instead, be encouraging to them and help them to be themselves 100%, all the way, with no shame and nothing that needs to change.

How have you worked through external definitions of you and in doing so helped to eliminate your insecurities too?

Inner Growth Word of The Day 193 – Thought

July 12

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Thought

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 1. something that is thought: such as – 1a. an individual act or product of thinking; 1b. a developed intention or plan; 1c. something (such as an opinion or belief) in the mind; 1d. the intellectual product or the organized views and principles of a period, place, group, or individual.

 

Thought in a sentence: A thought that you think of every day can be very powerful in how it affects your life and the things it gets you to do or not do.

 

Thought in action: When you come up with an idea, something you want to do or a plan you want to put into action, that is a thought.

 

Thought and inner growth:  When you look at recurring thoughts or a thought pattern that is present in your day to day this allows you to explore that thought from all angles and it is through this exploration that you find out some of those hidden core beliefs or values that are a part of you.  As you go through this process inner growth takes place with the realization of what core beliefs and values are actually yours versus taught ones.

 

Thought and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What is a recurring thought that comes to mind when I think about life? How have my thoughts influenced my life?  What have I done to explore the thoughts I have on a deeper level?  Do I contemplate similar patterns of thoughts that I have or random ones?  What common traits do my thoughts have when it comes to relationships?  What else stands out about my thoughts to me?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with thought at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick one word that makes you think of an important thought that has affected your life in a major way.  Next write about that event using the other words from the list.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about thought and allow them to freely flow. As you do this notice if any emotions stand out more than others or if they settle in certain places across your body.  As you do this visualize a river flowing so that you can evenly disperse your feelings and when you’re ready allow thoughts to come in, and pay attention to the very first thought that crosses your mind.

 

Your turn – Share your thought sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 192 – Care

July 11

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Care

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 4. regard coming from desire or esteem.

 

Care in a sentence: When you care for something or someone it shows in the attention you give and in how you speak about them.

 

Care in action: An action that involves another’s need or desire, or something that serves the benefit of another (whether thing or person) is what care can look like.

 

Care and inner growth: Exploring the things and people you care for, how you care for them, how you know (identify) you care, are all ways you can uncover what you hold on to dearly.  Through this awareness you can also explore why you hold on to these things and people, and in doing so pursue inner growth with the changes that could come in why and what you care for.

 

Care and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What does it mean to me to care? If care had a face, what would it look like?  When did I first notice I cared for someone or something and what gave it away?  How has the way I care affected my relationships?  How has care influenced my life?  What have I learned about others through the moments where I cared?  What’s one of the most important things about care to me?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with care at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Now write down three instances where care was involved in life.  Pick one of these events and write about it in detail with the words from your first list.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about care and let them flow without thinking much about anything. Notice where your emotions go and which ones are strongest.  As you settle in, allow thoughts to come to mind with the stronger feelings in the forefront and then focus on one of those thoughts at a time to see what else you uncover through the emotions that come to be.

 

Your turn – Share your care sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 191 – Closed off

July 10

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Closed off

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (phrasal verb) to not allow (something) to be used for a period of time.

 

Closed off in a sentence: When you’re closed off to things or people there are a number of reasons as to why.

 

Closed off in action: Not allowing someone in or not allowing something to be a part of your life is being closed off.

 

Closed off and inner growth: Being closed off is something that can happen due to life experiences and/or personal opinions, values taught, and so on.  An exploration of all of these components brings  about inner growth because it allows you to face those experiences and at the same time brings you to be somewhat open to at least tuning in to any valuable lessons from those things and people you’re usually closed off from.

 

Closed off and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What does it mean to be to be closed off? How has being closed off affected my life?  How has it affected my relationships?  When did I first think about being closed off and what it meant to me?  Why am I closed off to some people and/or things?  What are some of my biggest life lessons from my closed off experiences?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with closed off at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick one word that stands out the most and write about why it stands out from the rest and what closed off event it makes you think of.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about closed off and allow them to flow throughout you. Notice where your feelings stem from and where they go.  As you do this allow thoughts to come in and notice what particular event comes to mind first.  When you’re ready, focus on those events that had a bigger emotional impact on you as you thought about them.

 

Your turn – Share your closed off sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂