How to cope with stress to help yourself in the moment

Everyone experiences stress.  Be it your job or a loved one leaving, or something happening that makes you worried.  The list is endless of stressful situations.  How you cope with stress can help you or increase your stress levels.  So how can you cope with stress in a way that helps you in that moment and in future moments of stress?  Well, mindset and what you focus on most in those stressful times are key.

If you find yourself stressed out about something or because of someone the first thing you want to do is pause.  Pause and take a deep breath and start looking for ways to resolve your situation.  The more you focus on the problem and the more your stress levels will increase.  You don’t want that so remove the focus on the stressor and find your antistressors.

What can serve as an antistressor is a solution to your problem, but sometimes there is no solution.  In cases where you have no solution to your problem, contemplate the good in your life.  Think about your loved ones or the things you cherish the most, like the fact that your alive.  If life isn’t a boost in itself because maybe in that moment it really isn’t the best life you imagined for yourself, focus on the next best thing you do have.  I hope there is at least one thing that makes your heart smile and that you can turn to in times of need.

Anyone reading this blog is looking for inspiration or is already on a path of inspiration, therefore I know there is one ray of light in your life and that light is what you want to put all your attention on during a stressful moment.  In addition to focusing on the positives you’re grateful for in life, you can also visualize your happy place.  Maybe you love the beach or the starry sky or maybe sunrises make you all warm and fuzzy inside.  Whatever those happy places are, envision them as you’re going through that stressful moment so that you can remove yourself, even if for just a couple minutes, from the situation and take a break.

When you come back from your pause and happy thoughts focus you can start exploring what you can do to make things better for you following the stressful incident.  If it’s a job you lost or loved one, you want to look to the next steps you can take to get where you want to be from within, as well as in action.  Know that tomorrow is another day and this means you have an opportunity to improve or change something.

As long as you stay active in achieving what your heart desires for a positive outcome in any area in your life, the surer you are to one day achieving that goal.  It is only if you sit still that you won’t move much, and still, even in those circumstances you can rest assured that life will surprise you.

Now it’s your turn, how do you cope with stress or what advice do you share with those around you when they are going through a stressful situation?  Can’t wait to hear your thoughts 🙂


Inner Growth Word of The Day 165 – External drive

June 14

Inner Growth Word of the Day: External drive


Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: external – (adj.) 2 a. of, relating to, or connected with the outside or an outer part. drive – (v.) 5 a. to exert inescapable or coercive pressure on.  5 d. to press or force into an activity, course, or direction.


External drive in a sentence: An external drive can bring you to do something you wouldn’t have otherwise done in the absence of it.


External drive in action: Something outside of you that brings you to take certain actions or provokes strong feelings that get you to take action is an external drive.


External drive and inner growth: An external drive is something that stems from outside of you and exploring how exactly it affects you, and gets you to take action, gives you insights into inner triggers that push you to think, feel or do something.  With this knowledge inner growth takes place because you are now aware of inner triggers activated by the external, which means you can work with those inner triggers and transform them as you see fit from within and not as a consequence of the external.


External drive and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What do I consider to be an external drive that is always present in my life? How have external drives affected my life?  When did I first notice an external drive that got me to do something?  Why do external drives affect me?  What have I learned about myself from my external drives?


  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with external drive at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick the word that stands out the most to you and associate to it the biggest external drive you’ve experienced in your life so far.  Use the rest of the words from your first list to write about this experience.


  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about external drive and as the emotions flow throughout your body notice if they freely flow or if they seem to accumulate in certain parts of your body. As you do this keep your mind silent, but once you’ve pinpointed the location of your feelings allow thoughts to come in and see what’s the first thought that crosses your mind.  Now focus on that thought and let the feelings from it do the rest of the talking.


Your turn – Share your external drive sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂