When you know your purpose but struggle with the how

If you think back to when you were a kid was there something you felt drawn to or was there a recurring feeling within you to do something specific even though you couldn’t put it into words?  I believe every one of us, has had a feeling like that at some point growing up.  Then life kind of took over and societal expectations or events happened that brought you to do things.  For some, those things led them to that feeling they had within them as children; while others not so much.  As an adult, at some point maybe you stopped to try and grasp that thing you felt you were meant to do; yet you still couldn’t put a face to it, an exact shape.  There’s no exact shape you can give it and you’ve been trying ever since to figure it out.  If this is the case, there are some steps you can take to help you with your struggle between the life you have and the thing you feel you haven’t achieved yet, your purpose.

The reason that feeling is so hard to give an exact shape to is because it doesn’t have an exact shape per se.  The struggle comes from thinking that the things happening in your life are an obstacle to what you are meant to do or maybe that they are not “it” so they must be wrong.  Yet life is a journey, and the only way to bring your purpose to life is by going through it and taking action.  The events you may think are obstacles are all a part of that purpose you feel; and it is thanks to these life events that you find your purpose and eventually bring it to life.

Seeing a life event or a “failure” as something you need to fight prevents you from seeing the truth of these life moments; which is that they actually assist you in reaching your purpose by getting you to contemplate your purpose, listen to your heart and make another decision, and another, and still another until your heart actually starts growing in tune with the things that are coming your way.

It is thanks to all the these “wrong” life events and “obstacles” that you face, that you are able to see at some point your purpose come to reality, and feel that “ah ha” moment, where all the pieces of your life’s purpose (your puzzle) come together.

It is also thanks to the events that you experience that you are able to learn skills and adopt new traits that you would have otherwise not necessarily learned or acquired had it not been for the chain of events that took place in your life before that “ah ha” moment.

It’s like the half full, half empty saying; but not in the sense of positive thinking.  In the sense that the “struggle” is really a part of your purpose; for without it, you would never achieve your purpose.

As long as you stay aware of your heart, of that feeling inside you that says, “I know what I’m meant to do, I just can’t put it into words,” that you will continue pursuing your purpose no matter the events that seem like failures or obstacles. 

If this sounds kind of true to you, maybe it’s time you stop thinking life is out to get you with one obstacle after another.  Instead, take a step back as you’re going through what seems to be an obstacle and reflect on how you kind of know this is an opportunity to learn something that will actually lead you to where you are going.

At the end of the day, the only person who can stop pursuing what you know to be true in your heart, what you feel is your purpose, is you.  As long as you keep going, as long as you keep moving in the direction your heart is leading you towards (which it does by signaling you through joy or discontent), you will at some point see clearly your “destination.”  This doesn’t mean your purpose will be able to be put into words; but in your heart, that’s where you’ll know you’re there, that’s where you’ll have clarity and knowledge of living a life that is finally what you’ve known your purpose to be all along.

How do you face the struggles leading up to your purpose?


Inner Growth Word of The Day 158 – Disappointing

June 7

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Disappointing


Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) failing to meet expectations.


Disappointing in a sentence: When something is disappointing it tends to upset us, but even in a disappointing moment, you can find something to learn from and grow.


Disappointing in action: When you expect an event to turn out a certain way and it doesn’t, that is disappointing.


Disappointing and inner growth: Understanding why something is disappointing to you and exploring your unmet expectations, you can find inner growth if through this exploration you bring awareness to your wants and acceptance that expectations aren’t always met.  Disappointing situations also bring you to reflect about what you want to do next and this too brings inner growth, since you take steps to let go and move forward.


Disappointing and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: How do I feel about something disappointing? What have I learned about life from the disappointing things that have happened to me?  When was the first time I experienced a disappointing situation or person?  What did I learn about myself through this experience?  How has a disappointing behavior or trait affected my relationships?  What has changed in my life due to something or someone disappointing?


  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with disappointing at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick the words that stand out the most.  Next write about why each word stood out and how something or someone disappointing played a role.


  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about disappointing situations and allow those emotions to do the talking. While you sit in silence with your feelings notice if those emotions stem from specific areas of your body or where they go to.  When you’re ready, think of one disappointing life event and allow the feelings from it to continue expressing emotions throughout your body.   As you do this, if you find yourself getting upset, refocus your attention on the emotions that are less upsetting and then explore those upset feelings with questions to find out what’s behind those feelings.


Your turn – Share your disappointing sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂