Inner Growth Word of The Day 181 – Loyal

June 30

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Loyal

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) 1. unswerving in allegiance.  2. showing loyalty.

 

Loyal in a sentence: Loyal tendencies can be applied to one’s self, to others, to ideas, and even to things.

 

Loyal in action: When you are committed to a cause or person in such a way that nothing would make you stop doing what you’re doing or leave a person’s side, that is loyal.

 

Loyal and inner growth: Exploring your loyal tendencies and what or who you’re loyal to gives you insight into who or what you hold a strong connection to (something so deep that it brings about this unbreakable commitment).  When you dive into this area of yourself you find out so much about how you got to this point and this allows inner growth since you are now fully aware of where this loyal tendency comes from and what you can if you want to change it or add to it.

 

Loyal and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What do I think about my loyal tendencies? How has the way I am loyal to someone or something affected my life?  What have I learned about life thanks to those who are loyal to me?  When did I first notice loyal behaviors in others?  Do I judge those who are not loyal?  How have I changed in time with who or what I’m loyal to?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with loyal at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick two to three words that stand out the most in how they make you feel.  Write about them and why they have this powerful of a meaning to you and what that means in regards to your loyal tendencies.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about loyal and allow them to flow throughout you. As this takes place notice where your emotions are coming from and where they go.  If you notice those feelings settling in one area of your body visualize those emotions dispersing throughout your body.  When you’re ready allow thoughts to come in and see what thought provokes the strongest emotional response and focus on it allowing your feelings to do the rest of the talking.

 

Your turn – Share your loyal sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

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Inner Growth Word of The Day 180 – Opinionated

June 29

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Opinionated

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) firmly or unduly adhering to one’s own opinion or to preconceived notions.

 

Opinionated in a sentence: When one is opinionated, it doesn’t mean they are not able to listen or understand other’s opinions, just that they hold a strong belief of theirs.

 

Opinionated in action: If there is an opinion that you firmly believe in or if you have judgements that you hold on to, that is opinionated.

 

Opinionated and inner growth: A look at what you’re opinionated about enables a deep dive into ideas and opinions you feel strongly about.  This exploration of opinions and why you feel so strongly about them results in a level of awareness and possible transformation of these, which enables inner growth.

 

Opinionated and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: How do I feel about the things I am opinionated about? How has my opinionated nature affected my relationships?  What have I learned from being opinionated?  How has this opinionated tendency affected my life?  How do I feel about others who are opinionated?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with opinionated at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick one word that reminds you of a life moment where your opinionated nature affected what happened next.  Use the words in your first list to write about the event.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about opinionated and allow them to flow without thinking much, just feel. Notice if those emotions flow freely or if they settle in specific spots.  When you’re ready think about the life event you wrote about with the one word you picked from the list and notice what feelings this event brings about.

 

Your turn – Share your opinionated sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Everyone can make a mistake, it’s owning up to it that makes a difference

No matter how big or small a mistake can be, when you are able to own up to it, it makes a world of difference to you and/or to the other who suffered from the mistake.  It’s not about focusing on the blame or the now, ‘past’ event (and what was done); but rather accepting that it happened and exploring what exactly happened and why.

Obviously, the situation in exploring a mistake and owning up to it differs when it’s you who made the mistake or someone else who made it.  Let’s take a look at the two separately to see exactly how owning up to a mistake makes a difference in each circumstance.

Let’s start with you owning up to a mistake because it is simpler and easier for you to manage that situation in a way that you can learn from and avoid sitting on it or hiding inside and in doing so leaving hurt and disappointment within instead of releasing it and moving past the situation.

Because we’re human, it is only normal to err, and we know when we’ve done so because inside of us there’s this uneasy feeling.  The feeling could be anger or a lingering sadness, or maybe that feeling you get in the pit of your stomach that you did something wrong.  There’s the tendency to initially blame everyone and everything else or to make excuses for ourselves on why we had to do what we did.  Usually the knowledge and awareness that you made the mistake wants to hide beneath the surface and so everything else is to blame as to why that mistake happened.

Putting aside your ego is never easy, and since life is full of external events that are out of our control it’s easy to find something or someone else to be the cause of a choice.  However, the choice is made by you and you alone, and pointing the finger at someone or something else won’t make you feel better.  Unconsciously you’ll know.  So, instead of doing this to yourself, accepting and acknowledging that you made a mistake can help.

First recognize ego, recognize the part you played and did have control over, and recognize that at the end of the day you made the final choice.  Unless, your life was on the line, you made a conscious and thought out decision.  With all of this in the forefront then remind yourself that you’re human and explore the situation to see what you can learn about yourself from your mistake and from what happened so that you can try to avoid it the next time around.

For our second scenario, when someone else makes a mistake and doesn’t own up to it, the situation is much more challenging.  It’s challenging because there’s another person with their own personality and thought process in front of you, and with their own ego and perspective.  You can argue with them all day and try to make your points on why they should admit their mistake.  None of this will get them to do so if they don’t acknowledge it themselves.  The best you can do in these cases is to accept and move on.  If this person makes mistakes repeatedly and they affect you and your life in a big way, then remove them (if you can) from your circle of people.

Mistakes are made and mistakes are things we can learn from always if only we look beyond the surface; if only you don’t stop at the mistake and point the finger.  We’re all just trying to make it a good and happy life, along that road…mistakes can happen, but you can move past them and have them add to your person and world if you focus on the good that comes out of the situation.

How do you handle mistakes and owning up to them or dealing with people who don’t own up to theirs?

Inner Growth Word of The Day 179 – Firm

June 28

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Firm

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) 2 a1.  not subject to change or revision.  2 b. not easily moved or disturbed.

 

Firm in a sentence: To be firm doesn’t mean you’re not flexible, it just means there are things you’re not swayed from.

 

Firm in action: When something is not easily changed or when an opinion is not disturbed, those are considered to be firm.

 

Firm and inner growth: To explore why it is you’re firm on some things, whether it is an opinion or action, brings you to know the deeper truth behind your firmness.  If it is being firm because it resonates with your heart or if it is being firm based on something else brings inner growth since you contemplate where this unchangeable idea or action comes from within or not. This can bring about a change either in that firm idea or action or the reason for it being that way in the first place.

 

Firm and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What do I think about the ideas or actions I’m firm about? How has being firm affected my life?  What have I learned from being firm?  When did I first think about what I’m firm about?  Has being firm affected my relationships?  Do I think there are more than one reason for my being firm with some things and not others?  If so what are these reasons?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with firm at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick one or two words that represent where your firm ideas or actions come from.  Write about one of the two words and how this has affected your life using the rest of the words from the first list.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about firm and let them flow. Notice where those emotions come from and if they tend to settle in one or more areas of your body.  As you do this if there is an accumulation of feelings in one area of your body, visualize them flowing and not just sitting there (accumulating).  When you’re ready let thoughts come in too and see what types of feelings those thoughts bring about.

 

Your turn – Share your firm sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 178 – Special

June 27

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Special

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) 1. distinguished by some unusual quality.  2. held in particular esteem.  3 a. readily distinguishable from others of the same category.  4. being other than the usual.

 

Special in a sentence: When something is special you rarely forget it.

 

Special in action: If a person or thing is unique to you or is unique in quality, it is special.

 

Special and inner growth: When you explore the things and people that are special to you, you understand those traits that you find unique and that you cherish.  This type of exploration brings about inner growth as it gets you to bring to awareness that which you value, and it also allows you to add to those things as you keep what’s special on the surface.

 

Special and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What does special mean to me? Who is special to me?  What is special to me?  How do I characterize something or someone as special?  How has my life changed thanks to special things and people in my life?  When was the first time I thought of something or someone as special?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with special at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick one word that stands out the most and write about what special thing or person comes to mind with this word.  Use the other words from your list to write about this.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about special and allow them to flow. Don’t think about anything or anyone specific, just focus on the emotions that are expressing themselves throughout your body.  When you’re ready bring to mind something or someone special and notice what or who comes to mind first.  Then allow the emotions from this thought to flow throughout your body and tell you more.

 

Your turn – Share your special sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 177 – Mistake

June 26

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Mistake

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 1. a wrong judgement.  2. a wrong action or statement proceeding from faulty judgment, inadequate knowledge, or inattention.

 

Mistake in a sentence: Everyone can make a mistake, it’s what you make of it that matters because no matter the mistake, there’s always something to learn.

 

Mistake in action: When you do something you later find out was wrong, whether it’s a statement you’ve made or an action you took, that is a mistake.

 

Mistake and inner growth: To explore your relationship with the idea of a mistake, as well as taking a look at the mistakes you’ve made and make, is something that brings inner growth because it gets you to take the next step towards self-love; towards the understanding of others and how they can make mistakes; and towards a view of the world that can mold thanks to your newly gained insights of your own mistakes.

 

Mistake and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: How do I feel about making a mistake? When was the first time I made a mistake and what did I do about it?  What types of mistakes do I notice more often around me?  How have my mistakes affected my life?  How have mistakes in general affected my relationships?  What would I change about mistakes?  What are my biggest takeaways from mistakes?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with mistake at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick one word that reminds you of a mistake you made, then pick another that reminds you of a mistake someone else made, and then a third word that makes you think of a mistake that you and someone else made.  Now choose one of these words and the event associated to it and write about it with the words from your first list.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about a mistake and allow these emotions to flow evenly and smoothly throughout your body. If you notice places where the feelings accumulate, imagine a river flowing and those feelings being in that river slowly dispersing.  When you’re ready allow thoughts to come in and hone in on the thought (event) that stands out the most in what feelings it brings about.  From here, let those feelings flow and do the rest of the talking.

 

Your turn – Share your mistake sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 176 – Human

June 25

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Human

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) 3 b. representative of or susceptible to the sympathies and frailties of human nature.

 

Human in a sentence: To hold human traits is something each and every person on this planet knows all too well and contemplates at one time or another.

 

Human in action: When you notice, enact, or hold a type of characteristic that is representative of human nature that is human.

 

Human and inner growth: Exploring the human traits you hold and what traits you don’t (hold), gives you insights into how you relate to others through your own experiences, as well as the level of empathy you can have towards others when it comes to those human traits you don’t hold yourself.  This type of contemplation allows you to understand yourself at a deeper level and add understanding towards others too, this brings about inner growth within, but also in how you related to the outside world.

 

Human and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What are the human traits I hold that stand out the most to me? What have I learned about myself through the human characteristics I recognize having?  How have my human traits affected my relationships?  When was the first time I thought about human characteristics?  What are some human behavioral traits that others hold, which I don’t hold?  How does this affect how I relate to these individuals?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with human at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick two or three words that stand out to you.  Use the rest of the words to write about why these words stand out to you and how this reflects one of your most prominent human traits.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about human and let them flow like a summer’s breeze, smooth and continuous. As the emotions run through your body, notice if they start from one point and end in another or if they seem to evenly start from different spots throughout your body.  When you’re ready, think of one human trait you hold that makes you excited and happy.  Focus on that feeling and let it flow seeing what else it tells you about this human trait.

 

Your turn – Share your human sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂