The struggle in deciding based on your belief and what others believe

I wrote a couple blogs on making decisions a while back (like plus five years ago) and how one of the biggest dilemmas we face is knowing if we are making the ‘best’ decision ever or not.  Today I want to expand on making decisions, but with a focus on your belief; particularly, when others have something different to say about what you believe in and the decisions you’re looking to make based on those beliefs.  It is a struggle I think everyone faces at some point or another in their life.  After all, what you believe in has been influenced and may still be influenced by others.  This is what you want to explore and decide upon.

Let’s start with the fact that you should value your beliefs the same way you do those of others.  What I mean is that you shouldn’t discredit your beliefs because others don’t believe the same.  It is normal to second guess or want to talk out a belief, especially when you’re deciding on something important in your life; but since it is a decision that will affect your life, your belief, your gut feeling, should be number one of what you listen to when making your decision.

The reason for your belief to hold priority is that if you make a decision based on someone else’s belief, especially if it doesn’t resonate with what you believe in, and your decision turns out badly, you will most definitely not be happy.  Additionally, you will either regret or be upset for listening to someone else instead of going with what you believed and felt was the right choice for you.  This isn’t to say that someone can’t give you good advice, but if you hold a belief and you know what it is then there’s no reason to ask someone else what they would do or what they believe in.

Why do you ask someone what they think about a decision you’re going to make in the first place?  Is it because you doubt your beliefs and thoughts?  Is it because somehow you are certain their answers will be the right ones without a doubt?  How can you be so sure that their beliefs are better than yours?  And why would their beliefs be better than yours?

These are all questions you should ask yourself when you’re asking someone else what they believe in, instead of just listening to your own beliefs.  You should also take that moment to reflect about your held beliefs, because if you’re asking someone else for their beliefs and putting them above yours, maybe you don’t really hold those beliefs you think are yours.  Why else make a decision based on the belief someone else has instead of your own?

The struggle of following one’s own beliefs isn’t something surprising since we’re raised by parents who show us the way and teach us about life, teach us and show us how to make decisions and so on.  However, there comes a time when what you feel in your heart becomes a lot more obvious.  When what you believe in isn’t something based on what you were taught by your parents or society anymore, but it is a belief that stems from a feeling from inside, from your heart or your gut or both.

When you’re faced with a struggle of going with what you believe in versus what someone else believes in or tells you to believe in, stop and ask yourself why someone else’s belief holds more value than your own.  If in that moment, in that questioning, you find an answer that transforms your belief into the one that the other person has or you find a certain answer to why their belief is more important and true than yours, then go with their belief.  But if you don’t find any of that, then you should go with your belief or figure out why you keep holding beliefs that you don’t trust and that you won’t use to make important life decisions that affect you.

How do you work out the struggle between going with what you believe in versus what others believe in?

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Inner Growth Word of The Day 151 – Equality

May 31

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Equality

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) the quality or state of being equal (of the same number like another or like in quality, status, or nature).

 

Equality in a sentence: Equality in the world seems to be present to some and absent to others depending on their perception and life experiences.

 

Equality in action: When things or people are on the same plane, they have the same attributes or opportunities, that is equality.

 

Equality and inner growth: Exploring how you feel and what you think about equality (if you judge it or have preconceived notions about it) bring inner growth because this type of exploration gives you insights on how you feel about yourself in relation to equality and how you view the world when it comes to equality.

 

Equality and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What do I think about equality? How has equality affected my life?  How has equality affected my relationships?  What are some of the life lessons I’ve experienced due to equality?  In what way does equality exist for me?  Do I find equality in all the things I do?  When was the first time I thought about equality?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with equality at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. With those words write about one of the most important experiences you’ve had that made a huge impact on how you view equality today.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about equality and allow them to take over your body. Feel those emotions from head to toe and avoid thinking of any specific instance or opinion.  When you are clear on all the different feelings that are passing by, allow your thoughts to come in and notice what the first thing you think about is.  From here, focus on that thing and see what emotions arise and what they tell you about this thought that came to mind.

 

Your turn – Share your equality sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 150 – Adaptable

May 30

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Adaptable

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) capable of being or becoming adapted (able to change or be changed in order to fit or work better in some situation or for some purpose).

 

Adaptable in a sentence: When you are adaptable, you always find a way to work with what life brings your way.

 

Adaptable in action: Being able to change what you do to better meet a specific circumstance and/or need of a situation, is being adaptable.

 

Adaptable and inner growth: Being adaptable means you take time to pause and reflect, to accept what is different or unexpected and work with it.  This also means you do the same thing with yourself (inner self), which is how inner growth is brought about.  Thanks to your adaptable tendencies and your inner exploration, you pursue potential changes or at the very least gain awareness of your inner self to a more in-depth level.

 

Adaptable and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: How do I feel about being adaptable? What does being adaptable mean to me? How has being adaptable changed my life?  How has being adaptable affected my relationships?  What are some of the key takeaways that I’ve gotten from my adaptable experiences?  When did I first take a look at how adaptable or not I was?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with adaptable at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Pick three words from your list and think about a situation where you were adaptable that comes to mind for each word you chose.  Next write about one of those situations using the words from your first list.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about adaptable and allow those emotions to flow from head to toe. Don’t think much, just follow your feelings with your mind and feel the sensations they’re sending your way. Once you are fully enveloped in those feelings, allow thoughts to come to mind.  Focus on the first thought that you think of and let it show you through the feelings it brings about, why it came to mind this moment.

 

Your turn – Share your adaptable sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 149 – Versatile

May 29

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Versatile

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) 1. embracing a variety of subjects, fields, or skills.

 

Versatile in a sentence: Being versatile comes as years go by and you learn new things.

 

Versatile in action: Having knowledge of a variety of topics and knowing how to do different things is being versatile.

 

Versatile and inner growth: Exploring your versatile nature and the things you’re more inclined to learn brings about inner growth because you take note of where your natural tendencies are.  This also means you gain knowledge of the areas that you are less drawn to, which you can also look into so that you understand why you’re not drawn to them.

 

Versatile and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What do I think about being versatile? How has being able to be versatile affected my life?  When did I take notice of my versatile tendencies?  How has being versatile played a role in relationships?  What is something that stands out from my versatile attributes?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with versatile at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Next think of one word that encompasses your versatile nature and use the words from your first list to write about it.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about being versatile and let the emotions flow. As you are doing this notice what feeling stands out the most and when you’ve pinpointed it think about one life event that comes to mind associated with that feeling and your versatile nature.

 

Your turn – Share your versatile sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 148 – Reflection

May 28

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Reflection

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 6. a thought, idea, or opinion formed or a remark made as a result of meditation.  7. consideration of some subject matter, idea, or purpose.

 

Reflection in a sentence: When reflection takes place there are many things that can change due to insights gained in that moment.

 

Reflection in action: Pondering on something, whether it’s a thought that affects your life or an idea you have, are all part of reflection.

 

Reflection and inner growth: Inner growth would probably not take place were it not due to reflection.  If you do not pause to think about something thoroughly how can you ever come to bring growth or transformation or even just awareness of something.  Thanks to reflection you are able to look at yourself and all that is around you in an explorative way, which then leads you towards inner growth actions and conclusions.

 

Reflection and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What does reflection mean to me? How has reflection affected my life?  When does reflection take place in my day to day?  What have I noticed most about myself in moments of reflection?  What role has reflection played in my relationships?  How has reflection affected my relationships?  What are some of the biggest takeaways I’ve gotten from moments of reflection?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with reflection at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Now write a second list of words that represent significant moments of your life where reflection had a significant impact on how those moments turned out.  Out of the words you put down in your second list pick one and use the words from the first list to write about this significant life moment.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about reflection and allow it to flow within you. Try not to think much and just feel.  Notice what emotions stand out the most and visualize them going towards your heart and mind, making it clear how you feel.  Next let thoughts come in and focus on the first thought that crosses your mind, letting the feelings from it do the talking.

 

Your turn – Share your reflection sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 147 – Belief

May 27

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Belief

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 1. a state or habit of mind in which trust or confidence is placed in some person or thing.  2. something that is accepted, considered to be true, or held as an opinion.  3. conviction of the truth of some statement or the reality of some being or phenomenon especially when based on examination of evidence.

 

Belief in a sentence: Your belief guides you in some of the most important decisions of your life.

 

Belief in action: When you trust an idea or person with all your heart that is belief.

 

Belief and inner growth: Your belief affects inner growth in that it affects your decisions and actions.  When you explore each belief you hold, you can find out where and why you hold such beliefs, you can even question them.

 

Belief and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What does belief mean to me? When I think of a belief, what comes to mind?  How have my beliefs affected my life? What has changed in time when it comes to your beliefs?  When was the first time you thought about belief and the beliefs that are important to you?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with belief at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Pick one word from your list and expand on how that word reminds you of one of your most important beliefs regarding life.  Use the words from your first list to write about this belief and why it’s so important to you.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about belief and allow those emotions to flow. Try not to think about anything and just focus on what you’re feeling.  Imagine those emotions going from your head to your heart and all the way down to your toes.  When you’re ready let thoughts come in and focus on the first thought that comes to mind.  Allow the feelings from that thought to tell you more about why this specific thought came to mind.

 

Your turn – Share your belief sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 146 – Betrayal

May 26

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Betrayal

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 3. to fail or desert especially in time of need.

 

Betrayal in a sentence: When betrayal happens, it can sting quite a bit, but behind that moment there is something you can always learn.

 

Betrayal in action: If a loved one fails to assist you or be there for you, it can be considered betrayal.

 

Betrayal and inner growth: Betrayal can help inner growth since it allows us to find ourselves needing to count on our own strengths to get passed something.  It also, allows you to look at the people you choose to surround yourself with.  Even though the journey of your life is in your hands, a support system that resonates with your mindset and essence is important to your growth.

 

Betrayal and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What’s my opinion on betrayal? How have I handled betrayal when it’s happened?  Have I ever betrayed someone?  What life lessons has betrayal brought to me?  How has betrayal affected me?  When was the first time I experienced betrayal?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with betrayal at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From that list pick one word that represents how betrayal makes you feel and expand on that feeling by writing about an instance of betrayal that comes to mind.  Use the words from your first list within your story and take note of what stands out the most about how you write about what happened.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about betrayal and allow those feelings to flow. Don’t think, just feel and as you’re doing this bring a warm, comforting feeling to your heart.  Then slowly integrate thoughts of compassion and people that support you.  When you’re ready, move those thoughts to a specific instance of betrayal that is significant to you and allow your feelings to flow once more.

 

Your turn – Share your betrayal sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂