Inner Growth Word of The Day 113 – Revenge

Inner Growth Word of The Day 113 – Revenge

April 23

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Revenge

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (v.) 1. to avenge (oneself or another) usually by retaliating in kind or degree.  2. to inflict injury in return for.

 

Revenge in a sentence: Revenge is easy to spot, but what’s harder to find is the true depth and nature of this inside hurt that would bring someone to retaliate in such a way as to cause intentional discomfort of some sort to another.

 

Revenge in action: When someone causes pain or discomfort intentionally to avenge a wrong inflicted on them or another person (typically a loved one), that is revenge.

 

Revenge and inner growth: Exploring your acts of revenge (if you’ve ever taken it out on someone) allows you dig inside your wounds and find your hurt.  The way you use these inner findings to pursue inner growth is to find your peace and harmony with them (with your hurt).  Inflicting pain onto another doesn’t reduce or solve the pain one feels, which is why you look to your acts of revenge to understand the hurt and solve the void, and move forward.  Hence, inner growth; otherwise it is only a person inflicting intentional pain onto another who is themselves suffering.  For revenge taken out on you, understanding what happened and why the other person (who is enacting the revenge) feels hurt by you, is what can lead you to understand if there’s something you should change about your behavior or at least acknowledge that a type of action as the one taken (which hurt this individual) could hurt someone and cause them to seek out revenge on you.

 

Revenge and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What do I think about revenge? Do I judge revenge and if so, how?  Have I ever taken out revenge on someone?  Has anyone taken revenge on me?  What circumstances were involved in me taking out revenge and in another taking out revenge on me?  How do I think either situation could have been different?  What have I learned about myself from moments of revenge (taken or been subject to)?  What has revenge taught me about myself?  What about people?  What does revenge tell me about the world?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with revenge at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Now think of one episode where revenge was involved (whether it was you taking out revenge or someone taking it out on you) and write about it using the words from your list.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about revenge and let them talk to you through your focus on those emotions. After a couple minutes if you’d like allow thoughts to come in and focus on the first thing that comes to mind.  Let the feelings that arise keep you in that moment and maybe add some feelings in the mix that you’d like to experience with the thought you’re pondering.

 

Your turn – Share your revenge sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

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Inner Growth Word of The Day 112 – Desperate

April 22

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Desperate

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) 1 a. having lost hope. 1 b. giving no ground for hope.  2 a. moved by despair or utter loss of hope.  2 b. involving or employing extreme measures in an attempt to escape defeat or frustration.  3. suffering extreme need or anxiety.

 

Desperate in a sentence: When you’re desperate you’ll do anything to regain a sense of hope.

 

Desperate in action: Feeling lost or as if there’s no way out of something can make you feel desperate.

 

Desperate and inner growth: In those moments where we feel desperate and like we’re out of options, we think about many things and this contemplation can help us find out what it is we need to work on most for ourselves.  If we take a look within and find our hope, we can also gain strength to take action.  Desperate situations bring about inner growth because they help us find ourselves at a deeper level and also get us to gain that strength we need to move forward from within.

 

Desperate and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What’s my definition of desperate? When have I been desperate?  What did I learn from my moments of desperation?  What has being desperate taught me about life, about me, and about others?  How have I used situations where I felt desperate to find myself?  What types of things or situations make me feel desperate?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with desperate at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Now write a list of three moments where you were surrounded by a desperate feeling.  Pick one of the three moments and use the words from your first list to write about this moment (what you went through, what you learned about yourself, how it improved your life, etc.).

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about desperate moments in your life. Try to focus on what you’re feeling and not what happened in those moments.  After a couple of minutes bring your attention to the positive outcome of those moments and focus on that feeling.

 

Your turn – Share your desperate sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 111 – Help

April 21

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Help

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 1. aid, assistance.  2. a source of aid.  3. remedy, relief.  4 a. one who serves or assists another.

 

Help in a sentence: There’s nothing wrong in seeking help or providing help to someone in need.

 

Help in action: When you assist someone, or need assistance in something, you’re giving or asking for help.

 

Help and inner growth: Looking at how you give or ask for help is something that brings inner growth because it allows you to explore yourself and the trust you give humanity.  Trust to be able and rely on others if you’re in need, and trust in that you are willing to give something in order to help others.

 

Help and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What do I think about asking for help? What have I learned about myself from giving help to someone?  How has help affected my life?  Has my idea of help changed throughout the years?  If so, in what way?  Do I judge myself for needing help?  Do I give help to others willingly?  How do I decide who to help?  In what ways do I help myself?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with help at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Pick four of the words you listed and for two words put down an instance where you asked for help, while for the other two put down two instances where you’ve given help to someone.  Pick one from each group and write about what was so important about those moments.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about help and silence your mind as much as possible. After letting your emotions speak up, let thoughts come in and focus on that first thought that comes to mind.  You want to pay attention to how it makes you feel before you move on to any other thought.  Do this for as long as you’d like and with as many moments where you gave or needed help (that come to mind as you sit quietly).

 

Your turn – Share your help sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 110 – Success

April 20

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Success

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 2 a. degree or measure of succeeding.  2 b. favorable or desired outcome.

 

Success in a sentence: In one way or another, everyone achieves some form of success for themselves.

 

Success in action: When you set an objective and your desired outcome is obtained that’s considered success.

 

Success and inner growth: To look at success and what it means to you, as well as acknowledging your successes can further inner growth by getting you to define success for yourself and giving recognition to the things you’ve been able to achieve so far.

 

Success and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What do I think about success? Do I define my own success or do I let others define it for me?  What successes have I achieved so far?  Am I proud of the successes I’ve been able to obtain?  How does success affect my life?  What have I learned about life from success?  How does success affect my relationships?  What importance does success have for me?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with success at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Next write down three successes you’re proud of and next to each place two of the words from your first list.  From these three successes (along with the words you placed next to them) pick one of them and write about the success (what happened, how it affected you, what you learned from it, etc.).

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about success and allow it to take over. Sit quietly for about five minutes and let the emotions flow without getting distracted by outside noises or thoughts.  When you’re ready allow a thought come in, the first thought that comes to mind.  Focus on that thought and the feelings it brings about.  Explore it as you let those emotions take over.  Notice if something stands out about it.

 

Your turn – Share your success sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 109 – Determination

April 19

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Determination

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 3 a. the act of deciding definitely and firmly.  3 b. firm or fixed intention to achieve a desired end.

 

Determination in a sentence: Everyone has determination in some aspect of their life.

 

Determination in action: Deciding to pursue something and going all the way is determination.

 

Determination and inner growth: The level of determination you put in yourself and the things in your life allow you to pursue inner growth because you will do everything it takes to achieve your end result.  Also, determination means you contemplate your choices over time, and this type of exploration brings about additional opportunities for inner growth seeing as it is something you spend time on.

 

Determination and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: When did I first experience determination? What areas of my life involve determination?  How do I use determination to achieve inner growth?  How has determination affected my life?  What has determination brought to my relationships?  In what ways does determination affect my actions?  What influences my level of determination?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with determination at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Pick three words from your list and next to each put an incident that comes to mind where determination was involved.  Out of the three words and the incidents next to each word, pick one and write about this incident.  What stands out the most about your determination in this incident?

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about determination allowing the emotions to fill your body and mind. Let those emotions speak to you without thinking thoughts, but just feeling.  After a couple or more minutes, let your thoughts start flowing and focus on the one thought that stands out the most.  Allow it to speak to you through the feelings it brings about and when you feel it’s expressed itself fully, move on to the next thought that stands out.

 

Your turn – Share your determination sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

When inner growth helps you to find inner strength

When inner growth helps you to find inner strength

As I thought about what to write today, I did a quick search to see if I could find some of the most common questions people have about inner growth (to spark my creative juices, so to speak).  To my surprise, Google’s results didn’t include anything about inner growth, but had a number of results focused on inner strength.  Then another interesting coincidence was a daily meditation activity I’m participating in also focused on inner strength.  So, inner strength it is 🙂

What I noticed as a commonality in the Google search results and the meditation session was people’s desire to overcome the challenges in finding inner strength.  Obviously, Google focused on tips, while the meditation session focused on the false path to finding inner strength versus the true path.  I’m a big believer that each person has their own truth, but when it comes to true and false paths I believe that can happen.  It’s not true or false based on an outside judgement, it’s true or false based on its connection to one’s true self.  So, inner strength that comes from within because there is inner trust versus inner strength that comes from external criteria and the outside world.

You know how they say that when you know something is true, you don’t feel the need to prove it.  You don’t have to prove it because in your heart you know it’s true; this truth brings peace to you, which is why you don’t feel the need to “fight” to prove it.  If on the other hand you’re battling to prove something, then you are also battling to prove that something to yourself.

The same goes with inner strength.  If you trust yourself you know you can find strength, that you have inner strength.  The keys that were provided by all those who have written on the topic start with looking to yourself and knowing you can do it.  We all have it in us to live, this is why we all have it in us to find strength.  If you are finding it challenging to find inner strength, one way you can go about doing this is looking back at the challenges you’ve overcome in your life so far.  When I say look back, I mean feel the feelings you were feeling in that moment, be in the mindset of that moment and relive that moment with the knowledge you had at the time.  You’ll find that you were probably feeling quite down or upset, but that you did overcome the challenge and that everything turned out alright.

If you notice that you seem to find your inner strength from others, that is something you want to contemplate.  Support is important in your journey; however, your one guide should be your heart, your ways, your insights, your experiences.  Your support should add to your inner strength, but not take away.  So just notice if there is a weakening of your inner strength due to others, there’s something you still doubt about yourself and your dependability to know what’s best for you.

The last note on inner strength that is super important is the aspect of defensiveness and being closed off from the world.  As long as you have a view of the world as against you, and therefore your inner strength comes to you to battle these opposing forces; you may be strong, but this strength isn’t based on trust in yourself, your heart or life.  This type of inner strength is based on defending yourself from the world, which also means you feel like the world can hurt you.  If the world can hurt you, you don’t really feel that strong, and this is what you want to explore.

At the end of the day, it’s always about perspective; however, trust that the key to your inner strength comes from within.  Trust that you have it, and that you can find it if only you look at the amazing things you’ve come to achieve so far in your life.

Inner Growth Word of The Day 108 – Input

Inner Growth Word of The Day 108 – Input

April 18

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Input

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 1 e. advice, opinion, comment.

 

Input in a sentence: Input holds value when it’s been asked for by the receiver (of that input).

 

Input in action: When you ask for someone’s opinion or if you’ve been asked for advice by someone, you are sharing an input.

 

Input and inner growth: In exploring the input you give yourself or ask others for, you gain insight on the things you are looking to learn more about or transform in yourself and/or your life.  A look at each area assists in inner growth because it brings you to applying that input you’re giving yourself or others are giving you.

 

Input and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What type of input do I give myself and what type of input do I ask others for? Is there a difference in the input I look for when I’m talking to others?  What areas of my life do I look to gain more input in?  What are some of my biggest input takeaways when it comes to myself?  Is there an area that I’ve never looked for input on?  If so, why is that?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with input at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. With the list of words write about two instances of input that helped you with making a self-wanted transformation.  One of the instances is input you gave yourself, the other instance is input given to you by someone else.  From these two instances are there differences in how the input played out with your life?  Is the advice you gave yourself or were given by someone else something that has become a permanent in you today?

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about input and allow that initial spark to spread throughout you without actively thinking much, just sensing the emotions as a river flowing throughout your body. After about five minutes let thoughts come in and focus on the very first thought that crosses your mind about input and allow the feeling it brings about to tell you more about this thought.

 

Your turn – Share your input sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂