When something that you’ve been used to or have had in your life for so long comes to an end, how you handle it makes a huge difference in how you welcome the new, but also in how you feel as the old passes by. We’re so used to being told how much we will mourn departing from something we’re used to that we’re not really prepared to look at it with a lighter heart, maybe even a bit of an excited heart.
As long as there is life, there is movement. This also means that even though things may seem the same, they aren’t ever exactly the same in all the details of that moment. In small doses, we are ok with endings or better said, we’re ok with endings that don’t look like endings. However, a complete stop, all of a sudden, of something familiar to us is not welcome at a first instance. This is where you can test your boundaries if you wish to do so and try to approach “endings” from a different angle.
With life experiences bringing about changes, those “endings” are really the next step to your new beginnings. However, they are also a continuation of your life even though they may look different and as if they have ended.
Another way you could approach “endings,” if you aren’t of the idea that they continue with you, is through the acceptance of the fact that as your life moves forward, some things can’t move forward with you exactly as they are. If you are 30, you can’t expect to still be in first grade, can you? So, you accept this notion, but don’t mourn it, since you know it is part of what comes before what’s next. As we get older, it seems we forget this idea. Instead, if we keep it in the forefront, we expect “endings” to happen because we don’t really see them as endings at all, but just stepping stones in life.
It always comes down to perception of course. What we choose to see and how we see life, as well as the things that happen to us. If you want to see “endings” as endings, then that’s great too. It’s using your endings though to strengthen your beginnings that you want to achieve as you go through life. So if you do anything with endings in your life, celebrate their existence and the way they were able to prepare you for what comes next.
What do you think about “endings”? How do you see them in your life?