Inner Growth Word of the Day: Hostile
Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) 1 a. of or relating to an enemy. 1 b. marked by malevolence: having or showing unfriendly feelings. 1 c. openly opposed or resisting. 1 d1. not hospitable. 1 d2. having an intimidating, antagonistic, or offensive nature.
Hostile in a sentence: A hostile feeling towards someone or something arises for various reasons and requires attention, as well as resolution so that the situation and feeling may be resolved.
Hostile in action: When we’re opposed to something or someone that comes our way, hostile feelings may present themselves and cause some friction in our day to day.
Hostile and inner growth: Even though when we’re hostile towards someone or something it’s easier to focus on how to avoid the person or situation altogether; confronting those hostile feelings and understanding their source can bring you to explore yourself, transform the situation, and in doing so pursue inner growth.
Hostile and inner growth action steps:
- In-depth self-exploration questions: When was the last time I felt hostile towards someone or something? How often does this happen and in what circumstances? Why do I think I feel this way and this strongly? Do I think this is the only way I can feel about certain things and people? Has anyone ever been hostile towards me? If so, why and how did I feel about it? When I’m hostile, what do I typically do? How do I treat people and/or deal with the situation at hand? What have I learned from being hostile?
- List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with hostile at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. Now create a list of situations where you felt hostile towards people or something that was going on. Next to the list of situations write why you felt hostile and explore each ‘why’ for as long as you feel there is something more behind that ‘why’.
- Bring your awareness to your feelings about being or feeling hostile towards something or someone. Whatever stands out the most about the emotions that are flowing through your body and the thoughts you are coming across as you do this exercise are worth noting. Allow each thought and emotion to have their time to run freely and just be.
Your turn – Share your hostile sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂
Inner Growth Word of the Day: Change
Google’s Dictionary/Search definition: (n.) 1. the act or instance of making or becoming different.
Change in a sentence: The changes that come with the passing of time are not always easy to understand.
Change in action: In time, changes take place that bring about something different from what we were once used to; whether that different is a person’s behavior, a situation, or thought process.
Change and inner growth: How you feel about change is what sparks feelings and thoughts that tie in with inner growth. Whether you search and welcome change or not, pondering those moments are what can lead you to uncover more about yourself and decide on matters regarding inner growth.
Change and inner growth action steps:
- In-depth self-exploration questions: How do I feel about change? Do I get agitated or relaxed or maybe both? Why do I feel this way about change? What are some great things that came about because of change? Do I think I’ve changed? Do I think change is good or bad? Do I resist change or embrace it? What have I learned about myself thanks to my reaction and interaction with change? What advice would I share with the me from 1 year, 5 years, and 10 years ago?
- List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with change at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. Take note if the words you list express judgement of good or bad or mixed on change. Now make a second list, but this time list two to ten things or thoughts or behaviors that have come about thanks to change (for you).
- Bring your awareness to your feelings about change and take note of the first feeling that comes to be. Allow that first feeling to come to life and express what it is you truly feel. Once you’ve explored that feeling or if something else comes to mind, explore that next.
Your turn – Share your change sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂
Inner Growth Word of the Day: Jealousy
Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: 1. a jealous disposition, attitude, or feeling (jealous meaning: hostile towards someone believed to enjoy an advantage and/or vigilant in guarding a possession).
Jealousy in a sentence: When a relationship or situation includes jealousy, questions should be asked as to why and how to resolve the disequilibrium.
Jealousy in action: Jealousy can bring about many things, including actions by an individual to equal out the filed so that they no longer feel at a disadvantage or lacking something.
Jealousy and inner growth: When experiencing jealousy, a person has the opportunity to pursue inner growth because it is brought to their attention a feeling of disadvantage or lack that they have compared to something or someone outside of them. Exploration takes place that will lead to actions to resolve that sense of lack within them.
Jealousy and inner growth action steps:
- In-depth self-exploration questions: What do I think about jealousy? Has jealousy played a role in my life? If so, when and how? Is jealousy something that I see in others? What about in myself? Do I judge jealousy? What have I learned from situations where jealousy was present? How do I handle jealousy? Do I think there’s something to resolve if jealousy is present within me or someone else?
- List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with jealousy at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Now create a scenario where two people are involved and use the words you listed in the story you’re telling. As you reread what you wrote, add to the story a neutral party that tries to manage the lacks or issues between the two people in your story.
- Bring your awareness to your feelings about jealousy you want to really try to remove any judgement if there is some present and to let your feelings go about. While you’re experiencing them, identify where your mind wanders off to, if it’s a specific person, event, and so on. Make a mental note of those things that keep popping up and later on explore each one to see what else you can find out about how they relate to your feelings about jealousy.
Your turn – Share your jealousy sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂
Inner Growth Word of the Day: Anger
Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 1. a strong feeling of displeasure and usually of antagonism (see antagonism 1b).
Anger in a sentence: The level of anger someone feels, depends on their focus or ability to refocus.
Anger in action: When something is done, or said, or happens to us that displeases us in a certain way, one of the feelings that can arise is anger.
Anger and inner growth: Understanding your anger, its source and its triggers, gives you a deeper understanding of yourself and allows you to pursue inner growth by the mere fact that you are looking to bring awareness to yourself on why you feel anger; so why anger comes to be and maybe what you can do about it.
Anger and inner growth action steps:
- In-depth self-exploration questions: What do I think about anger? What is my anger trigger? Do I only feel anger with certain people or in a certain situation? How has anger affected my life? How do I handle my anger? What about other’s anger? Do I judge anger good or bad? If so, why good or bad? Do I want to avoid anger or do I welcome it, maybe even invite it in? What’s one of the most important lessons I’ve learned from anger?
- List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with anger at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. Order your list of words from top to bottom starting with the words that you associate strongly to anger and ending with the least associated to anger. What do you notice about your word association to anger that stands out?
- Bring your awareness to your feelings about anger and try to notice if you’re including judgement in those feelings or if you simply feeling the feeling. Also, try to notice if there’s one or more events that come to mind, which strengthen or weaken your feelings about anger, as well as provoke anger within you. If you start feeling uncomfortable, stop, write down a reminder of what is making you uncomfortable and come back to explore that what at a later time.
Your turn – Share your anger sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂
Inner Growth Word of the Day: Happiness
Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 2 a. a state of well-being and contentment: joy. 2 b. a pleasurable or satisfying experience.
Happiness in a sentence: The happiness that comes from the choices you make for your well-being is immeasurable.
Happiness in action: When you listen to your heart you are sure to know what experiences bring you happiness.
Happiness and inner growth: Making decisions that bring about happiness is the first step to inner growth because your focus is on choices for your well-being, the second step is understanding how you make those choices that this or that choice (experience, thing, etc.) is happiness for you.
Happiness and inner growth action steps:
- In-depth self-exploration questions: What is happiness to me? Where does my happiness stem from? How does the external world affect my happiness? Do things play a role in my happiness? How do I define happiness? What internal indicators tell me happiness is here? What’s one thing that if absent meant I could never have happiness?
- List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with happiness at the center and then list or put around it all the things that come to mind from your life associated with it. Next make a list of what happiness (in itself) means to you. Now write a story using only one of the words you listed that indicates happiness to you. What does your choice say to you? How about your story?
- Bring your awareness to your feelings about happiness and notice if there are any repetitive patterns to the things you think about as you’re feeling those feelings. If you notice a pattern of sorts, try to explore that pattern through your feelings and thoughts. See where it takes you and what you gather from the experience about your feelings about happiness.
Your turn – Share your happiness sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂
Inner Growth Word of the Day: Life
Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 1 a. the quality that distinguishes a vital and functional being from a dead body. 1 b. a principle or force that is considered to underlie the distinctive quality of animate beings. 2 a. the sequence of physical and mental experiences that make up the existence of an individual.
Life in a sentence: In the absence of death there is life.
Life in action: To breath, to walk, to talk, to grow; all of these comprise life.
Life and inner growth: When it comes to life, the importance you attribute it brings about a series of questions that inevitably lead you to decisions on where you want to go with inner growth.
Life and inner growth action steps:
- In-depth self-exploration questions: What does it mean to me to have life? Do I contemplate it? If so, what crosses my mind when I do? Do I rejoice in life? Do I differentiate between the word life and existence or do they mean the same for me? Can I imagine that anybody would want the absence of life?
- List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with life at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. Now list a series of life experiences that you consider the representation of what life means to you. What stands out as something important to you related to your thoughts about life?
- Bring your awareness to your feelings about life and notice if there are any thoughts that lift you up more and more as you associate them to the idea you have on life. Any feelings that lower your energy jot down and come back to when you’re ready to understand what those feelings are all about.
Your turn – Share your life sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂
How many of you think struggle is part of life? That if you want to get something or somewhere, you have to fight for it? How many of you believe everything happens without having to fight to conquer it all? That things happen quite naturally, as long as movement is in place? Or how about that process and achieving something naturally takes time to evolve and come to fruition, that is all?
I ask these questions because at the bottom of struggle in life is this belief that you have to work for what you want to achieve otherwise you won’t get anywhere. It’s not the sentence in itself, of course there is “work” behind every action if you’re going to get from place A to Z, but the weight given to “work,” as if it’s this insurmountable obstacle and that the road is going to be so arduous and painful; that added feeling is brought about by the way part of the world decided to portray this idea of working to get what you want.
A good portion of people in this world promote the struggle life notion that many people feel everyday and use to acknowledge what their journey will be like. I still recall going through it myself; the internal heaviness that came from contemplating all the decisions I had made up till that moment and seeing only a fraction of where I had envisioned myself being after doing that. This feeling did not motivate me, maybe the quotes and inspirational messages of people who had climbed their mountain did; but all my moment did was drain me of energy and make me feel powerless. As life started showing signs of me being on the right path by materializing situations and events, it dawned on me that struggle didn’t have to be part of the equation. It wasn’t that heavy feeling that helped me get anywhere, it was me steadily pursuing what I believed in wholeheartedly. It was that simple; and in that moment of realization, a weight was lifted off my shoulders and everything became so much easier from there on.
I share this tidbit in the hopes that it helps you reflect on your struggles and realize that it doesn’t have to be that way, that heavy. There may be those who advocate tough insurmountable challenges or maybe it is because of that toughness that you are pursuing your goals. There are people who thrive in the extreme opposite feeling conditions (high stress, high reward). If that’s the case, this means struggle is in tune with you and part of what will help you get where you want in life. But if you notice that you’re not a life struggle type person, that your day to day struggles bring you down and drain you of your energy, you can change the scenario. It takes some time and self-awareness, refraining from seeing everything as a battle, and entrusting your thoughts to life and your inner knowledge of what your path is meant to be. All you have to do is make a choice and go from there.
Whether you’re a person who chooses struggle in life or belief in life, you will get to where you’re meant to be, you will achieve all that is going to be a part of your life. It’s simply a matter of time.
What do you think about struggle in life?