What are you doing about your emotional highs and lows to further inner growth?

One of the toughest things people experience throughout their lifetime are the fluctuations of highs and lows.  One moment you’re happy, the next you’re sad.  It doesn’t have to always be like that, but it depends on how you approach those contrasting moments.  Do you just let them happen?  Do you question what’s going on?  Do you find a reason for continuing to live in that emotional state?  Do they even grab your attention in a thought provoking way or do you just notice them because of the horrible feeling you have when you’re going through a low?

These are all questions that aim to spark your interest, maybe you’ve already answered them or maybe you’ve never thought of them.  For as much as we are told life has its good and bad moments, it always comes back to what we choose to see and even more so, what we believe in from our core.  It’s up to us to know our core or seek help to uncover it.  The thing is, this discovery can be quite painful being that it brings us to a place where our biggest fears are present.  However, as it is with anything inner growth related, the result stems from us and how badly we really, want something.

Emotional highs and lows are so intense to go through, even if you’ve only had one experience of this kind, you know exactly what I’m talking about.  One moment you’re invincible and the next you’re a lifelong prisoner.  This type of feeling is addictive on both ends; the issue is going from one extreme to the other due to the extreme nature of the lows.  As always the lows can bring a person down so much that they don’t get up and that’s an issue for the person and inner growth, right?

The fundamental question you should start off with if you’re really, set on getting over this habit of extremes is asking yourself if you believe there is harmony and balance.  Do you believe that you can release your expectations, judgements and all the things that are tied to your low moments?  Or does your inner self really, believe the world is cruel, unjust and a prison for all?  This might seem an extreme statement, but from my own personal experiences and those shared by friends, those emotional lows, seriously make you feel like you’re on earth prison.

The people I’ve seen get out of this habit tend to be in search of inner growth and inclined to believe in love and life.  These are some of the things that help them to pursue achieving a balance and at the very least, reducing those low emotional extreme moments to ones where they know it’s not the end of the world; that there is a way out.  As you go through your emotional lows and find positive feelings and thoughts to comfort you, you reduce the impact of that low moment to one where it doesn’t make you not want to do anything, but rather it sparks your mind to ask more questions to yourself or to focus on all the things you do have.

It’s always about our own focus, you can choose to see a prison or choose to see what’s outside of it, how you can get out of it, and so on.  It doesn’t mean it’s easy, but if you believe there’s a way out, then that’s a first step towards not only uncovering more about yourself, but also eventually making these lows very easy for you to handle.

How do you explore your emotional lows to add to your inner growth journey?  And how do you pursue harmony and balance instead of extremes?


The inner growth that can come from a compromise

The beauty of thought and self-exploration in the pursuit of inner growth and/or balance and harmony in life is the limitless possibilities you have.  What angle you can take on anything you’re thinking about goes beyond our imagination.  And thanks to the world that surrounds you, you are able to see, integrate or compare different perspectives, which all help you to expand that limitless potential you have.  In this amazing experience, compromises are also something that can make you reflect, grow and expand your perspective.

As you’ve noticed if you follow my blog, I updated my profile picture.  Now, as an online marketer, brand consistency is key.  So, the profile picture you see here, has been placed on all the social profiles where I am actively involved.  Why am I bringing this up?  I’m bringing this up because the picture to me represented a compromise (to me).  The day I updated all my pics, I kind of felt sad about having to do that and as I felt this feeling, I stopped and told myself that this thought of mine, that changing my picture was a compromise, the fact that I felt sad about it, indicated something that I should think about for my inner growth.

How does it relate to inner growth?  Well, whenever we feel like we’ve lost something there’s an opportunity to explore our own through process and to release whatever it is we’re holding on to.  In this case, the idea that one image of me represents me more than another shows me holding on to a judgement of my own on image.  In the grand scheme of things, is it really worth pursuing this thought process?  Some would say, this is overthinking and a waste of time.  I find it to be quite the opposite when you’re looking to know yourself in and out, when you’re looking to find balance on all levels so that you can pursue a life where you’re always learning, loving and living to the depths of your being.

Compromises indicate that we have a thought on a decision, a thought that puts into question values, ideas, perspectives, and judgements in regards to a particular situation.  We identify ourselves in one way and are being put on the spot to make a decision, one that might involve something we don’t want to do or something we want to be sure we are ok with doing.  There will be many compromises in our life, and the final decision should always be what resonates with you the most.  However, as one is going through the moment of thinking it out, it is also worth exploring if we feel this is a compromise for a judgement or thought that we’re applying on ourselves and not necessarily a compromise of value in the real sense that it puts in jeopardy our person.

No matter the outcome of your compromise, the part that is helpful here to your inner growth is actually taking the opportunity to ask yourself some deep questions on why you’re feeling that way about this situation and what you consequently can learn about yourself.  If the compromise you’re facing isn’t harmful to you or others, but essentially involves a thought, an opinion on something, this is where you can understand what thought and categorization you apply on this situation that is taking place.

When all is said and done, you will have still made that compromise, but thinking about it will have given you the opportunity to release this categorization you’re holding on to or come to be fully aware of how you see that specific thing or situation.

Inner growth is limitless like our thoughts and perspectives.  It’s always about how far we choose to go, what we choose our limits to be or not to be.  So, here’s a question for you, what’s one of the compromises that you’ve made that really hit you hard?  Did you ever dive deep into it to try and understand yourself?  If yes, what did you find out about yourself in the process and what did you let go of or fully own?

People’s differences have a way of adding to the pursuit of inner growth

If you really think about it, the differences each of us has is something quite special; not only does it make life colorful, but it is also something that supports the pursuit of inner growth.  Certainly, there are some characteristics and behaviors that can conflict with one’s own; but if these differences didn’t exist, would we be inclined to look further?  Would growth happen if there wasn’t anything that struck us or that brought about a reaction within us?

The reason we’re brought to contemplate something is because of a reaction that takes place within us.  That reaction can be a super happy feeling or a moment of frustration.  When the reaction is pleasant we get the chance to explore this feeling and what we like so much about that situation or person.  When the reaction is unpleasant on the other hand, we tend to wish the situation didn’t happen or to want to avoid having anything to do with that person.

While I’m not saying we should make unpleasant situations or people a part of our life, I do think we can change our focus to something that will help inner growth and minimize the unpleasant feeling (which ultimately brings nothing to us except for a bad feeling).  We’ve already discussed unpleasant situations (challenges) and how to look at them in a way that makes them opportunities, here’s a link to one of the blogs I’m talking about: Transforming challenges into opportunities.  When it comes to dealing with people though, I wanted to explore a different angle with you than what we’ve looked at so far.

It came to my attention while I was dealing with an unpleasant situation that by me keeping in my mind the characteristics I wasn’t really comfortable with; I was missing out on the opportunity to understand a different mindset, a different perspective.  I also realized how if this type of person didn’t exist, I wouldn’t even be faced with the chance to see life from a different set of eyes.  So, as the conversation continued I shifted my focus to that of one who simply listened, observed, and absorbed.

Thanks to shifting my focus away from my “dislikes”, not only did the words this person was saying not affect me negatively, but I also started asking more questions to understand their perspective better.  When I walked away from this conversation, I wasn’t changed in my way of thinking, but I now saw an entirely different perspective that I would’ve never seen on my own since my way of thinking was (is) so different from this person.

That’s not to say I’d love to hang out with this person endlessly, but thanks to them I have an added look at how someone can interpret specific actions and situations, which can help me to be a better communicator and human.  This type of takeaway allows anyone to empathize more with another human being.  It also gives you an added perspective to the world around you.

If you find yourself focusing on all the things you don’t like about a person, try to stop yourself and redirect your focus to listening, observing and absorbing.  This focus will allow you to learn something new instead of you having to sit through a conversation feeling all upset.  You probably won’t see that person ever again or very little, but thanks to your redirected focus, and thanks to that person being so different from you, you will be able to catch a glimpse of the world in a way you won’t ever see it.

How do you pursue inner growth thanks to people who are different from you?