Wednesday Wisdom Tip

Wednesday Wisdom Tip

#WednesdayWisdom Tips

For Wednesday Wisdom I thought I’d share a tip I find helpful in inspiring and uplifting my days.  Since #WW takes place on a weekly basis I figure I update this blog post with tips when they come to mind.  If you’d love to contribute your wisdom tips too, leave them in the comments below and I’ll add it to the list (with the appropriate attribution of course).

So here goes… Wednesday Wisdom Tips

  1. When something upsets you, take a deep breath and think of one thing you’re grateful for (if you’re alive and healthy you’ve already got two things to rejoice); doing this should help you turn that frown right back up into a smile outside and inside!
  2. When the day is done, right before you go to sleep, think of one thing you’re happy you did today.  Then think of one thing you’d like to get done tomorrow and why it means so much to you that you get it done.
  3. What is one thing you know you have when a day has passed?  Simply put, you have life.  When the end of the day arrives, look back at all the moments you lived that day and pin point one of your favorite moments for the day.
  4. Your outlook on life can take different turns as you explore the experiences you live day by day.
  5. In those moments of drained energy, those tiresome days, take a minute and redirect your focus to a moment you recall where you were at your best.  Feel the energy of that day and let it help you get through this one.
  6. The struggle is real so long as it is in your head; for the mind has limitless potential in what you can see, if only you choose to dive into the different possibilities.
  7. What makes the process challenging is having the patience to let it take its course.  All needs time, and when you remove the expectation of a set time, this stops you from feeling weighed down and allows you to enjoy the process.
  8. Create your own boxes for you because at the end of the day, you’re the person you’ll be answering to when it comes time to how you feel about something and how you live your life.
  9. If you find yourself in doubt about something, focus on the one thing you are sure about, and ask yourself to truthfully answer how certain or afraid you are about the thing you are doubting.
  10. Listening to yourself is important, but so is seeing with the eyes of others when trying to truly understand them.
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A blab story to overcome not speaking up

A blab story to overcome not speaking up

There’s a new social media platform that I’ve found really amazing for the potential it has in allowing people to connect and talk about topics of interest.  It’s a bit like Google Hangouts, but better.  It’s called blab and you create an account by logging in with your Twitter account (so technically you don’t have to set up a totally new social media account).  It allows you to host your own blab, schedule blabs and participate in other blabs (live ones), but also watch recorded ones.  Up to four people can join the blab on video and talk, plus there’s a chat area where you can write and submit questions.

I was on my third blab on Saturday, it was held by Stephen Heywood (a podcaster, broadcaster and tech guru), who you should definitely check out if you’re thinking about doing a podcast.  On the blab there was also Brian Aldridge (a computer consultant); and the topic was around podcasting, as well as taking care of your website and setting it up in a secure way for your users/listeners (which is where Brian‘s expertise came in handy).  I’m sharing a bit of background to introduce to you two awesome people, who you will also find helpful if you are looking to do something related to website or podcasting/broadcasting; but I also need to share this tidbit to set up what I want to share in this post.  So please, bear with me 🙂

As Stephen and Brian talked about podcasting and site security and upkeep, I had a question that I posted in the chat; but as the conversation kept going, more questions came to mind.  I held back from calling in because I was concerned I might interrupt the flow of the conversation, but also because I wasn’t sure I’d be welcome.  Luckily, I love chatting and socializing; so I thought to myself, what’s the worst that can happen; they make it clear that they don’t want me there?  It’s worth a shot.  Additionally, the way blab is set up makes it clear that it’s meant to get people to join in the conversation; that’s why there are the four call in slots.  Plus, blab hosts can choose to lock the open call in spaces if they don’t want others calling in.

I called in and the conversation lasted quite some time.  In fact once it was over, I noticed that Stephen and other blab chat participants had tweeted a bunch of GIFs; you should’ve seen some of my expressions haha.  Anyways.  The takeaways I wanted to share through this story (experience) are a few that I think we face not only in a scenario like blab conversations, but also in life.

  • Don’t be afraid to join in on a conversation.  Whether it’s through an online chat or in a group situation, if you have something to say, say it.  There’s no reason why you shouldn’t, and even if what you have to say isn’t welcome, it’s not the end of the world.  Someone who will judge you for sharing an opinion doesn’t make what you have to say any less valid.  Furthermore, you never know the amazing people you could meet if you don’t try to interact with them.  I’ve found that most people are happy to engage in conversation.  The ones who aren’t, well, that’s their choice and you simply won’t interact with them following your first approach; but to miss out on the opportunity because of fear is a pity because there are a lot of beautiful people out there.
  • Genuine individuals who are just as interested in what others have to say and don’t consider others’ opinions any less valid than their own are all around us.  They are easily identifiable too.  You can tell by the way they interact with others and by how they talk, their choice of words.  The more down to earth, the more they are likely to enjoy others joining in.  Also, even if they are a leader or expert in their field, the true leaders will always welcome others to share.  They are a leader because of their support in helping others to grow and see their own value.  A truly knowledgeable person knows that every person has something to share, something insightful and interesting to contribute; even if they disagree with the opinion being shared.

Whether you’re looking to share something with a group of colleagues, superiors or peers; or if you’re wanting to interact with others online, like in a blab setting, don’t be afraid to do so.  Give value to what you have to say, it is no less important than what others are saying.  If you discredit your own thoughts, you’re really not being fair to yourself; and if you find a person who makes you feel stupid, it doesn’t mean you are, that’s you allowing someone else to make you feel that way.  As long as you believe in what you have to say, your words will have meaning.

How have you overcome moments where you want to say something, but hold back because you’re intimidated?

 

 

“Trust in your journey, for everything that comes your way will add something to your life…” ~ FNM

Amazing people doing amazing things

As mentioned in one of my previous posts, I’m doing a weekly podcast with a friend where we spotlight people who are making a difference in other people’s lives.  I wanted to take the opportunity to share another one of the episodes in case you are looking to brighten up your day and/or be inspired by the amazing people there are in this world.

This one is our interview with a father making a difference in fathers and daughters’ lives by helping them bond through hair: Father’s Initiative Helps Dads Bond With Their Daughters.  Although this may seem like nothing special, I beg to differ.  We all know how important parent-child relationships are to inner growth and happiness in life (this isn’t an opinion, just take a look at all the psychological studies on child emotional development and parental influence).  So, what this dad is doing has an impact on so many levels, and extends way beyond dad/daughter hair days.

Through the Daddy Daughter Hair Factory initiative, this dad and daughter team help to create a lovely bond between fathers and daughters; make daughters know their fathers care about them; and through this time together where fathers learn how to do their daughters’ hair (and different hairstyles), the girls get that selfless love that can help their inner growth (to an immeasurable degree), plus a whole lot of memories they will cherish forever.

When someone shares with us something we love, it is one of the best feelings in this world!  We all know that feeling; and those special moments we carry in our hearts that can lift us up when we are down and give us strength when we need it.  You can imagine how daughters feel when their dads take the time to learn and to do their hair in a way that makes them smile, and how that moment will be with them forever.

There’s no way of beating that loved feeling that you carry within you from positive childhood moments!  I hope you enjoy the podcast; and if you’re a single dad, you’ll love connecting with this community of awesome dads 🙂