Inner Growth Word of The Day 178 – Special

Inner Growth Word of The Day 178 – Special

June 27

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Special

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) 1. distinguished by some unusual quality.  2. held in particular esteem.  3 a. readily distinguishable from others of the same category.  4. being other than the usual.

 

Special in a sentence: When something is special you rarely forget it.

 

Special in action: If a person or thing is unique to you or is unique in quality, it is special.

 

Special and inner growth: When you explore the things and people that are special to you, you understand those traits that you find unique and that you cherish.  This type of exploration brings about inner growth as it gets you to bring to awareness that which you value, and it also allows you to add to those things as you keep what’s special on the surface.

 

Special and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What does special mean to me? Who is special to me?  What is special to me?  How do I characterize something or someone as special?  How has my life changed thanks to special things and people in my life?  When was the first time I thought of something or someone as special?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with special at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick one word that stands out the most and write about what special thing or person comes to mind with this word.  Use the other words from your list to write about this.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about special and allow them to flow. Don’t think about anything or anyone specific, just focus on the emotions that are expressing themselves throughout your body.  When you’re ready bring to mind something or someone special and notice what or who comes to mind first.  Then allow the emotions from this thought to flow throughout your body and tell you more.

 

Your turn – Share your special sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

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Inner Growth Word of The Day 177 – Mistake

June 26

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Mistake

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 1. a wrong judgement.  2. a wrong action or statement proceeding from faulty judgment, inadequate knowledge, or inattention.

 

Mistake in a sentence: Everyone can make a mistake, it’s what you make of it that matters because no matter the mistake, there’s always something to learn.

 

Mistake in action: When you do something you later find out was wrong, whether it’s a statement you’ve made or an action you took, that is a mistake.

 

Mistake and inner growth: To explore your relationship with the idea of a mistake, as well as taking a look at the mistakes you’ve made and make, is something that brings inner growth because it gets you to take the next step towards self-love; towards the understanding of others and how they can make mistakes; and towards a view of the world that can mold thanks to your newly gained insights of your own mistakes.

 

Mistake and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: How do I feel about making a mistake? When was the first time I made a mistake and what did I do about it?  What types of mistakes do I notice more often around me?  How have my mistakes affected my life?  How have mistakes in general affected my relationships?  What would I change about mistakes?  What are my biggest takeaways from mistakes?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with mistake at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick one word that reminds you of a mistake you made, then pick another that reminds you of a mistake someone else made, and then a third word that makes you think of a mistake that you and someone else made.  Now choose one of these words and the event associated to it and write about it with the words from your first list.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about a mistake and allow these emotions to flow evenly and smoothly throughout your body. If you notice places where the feelings accumulate, imagine a river flowing and those feelings being in that river slowly dispersing.  When you’re ready allow thoughts to come in and hone in on the thought (event) that stands out the most in what feelings it brings about.  From here, let those feelings flow and do the rest of the talking.

 

Your turn – Share your mistake sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 176 – Human

June 25

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Human

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) 3 b. representative of or susceptible to the sympathies and frailties of human nature.

 

Human in a sentence: To hold human traits is something each and every person on this planet knows all too well and contemplates at one time or another.

 

Human in action: When you notice, enact, or hold a type of characteristic that is representative of human nature that is human.

 

Human and inner growth: Exploring the human traits you hold and what traits you don’t (hold), gives you insights into how you relate to others through your own experiences, as well as the level of empathy you can have towards others when it comes to those human traits you don’t hold yourself.  This type of contemplation allows you to understand yourself at a deeper level and add understanding towards others too, this brings about inner growth within, but also in how you related to the outside world.

 

Human and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What are the human traits I hold that stand out the most to me? What have I learned about myself through the human characteristics I recognize having?  How have my human traits affected my relationships?  When was the first time I thought about human characteristics?  What are some human behavioral traits that others hold, which I don’t hold?  How does this affect how I relate to these individuals?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with human at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. From this list pick two or three words that stand out to you.  Use the rest of the words to write about why these words stand out to you and how this reflects one of your most prominent human traits.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about human and let them flow like a summer’s breeze, smooth and continuous. As the emotions run through your body, notice if they start from one point and end in another or if they seem to evenly start from different spots throughout your body.  When you’re ready, think of one human trait you hold that makes you excited and happy.  Focus on that feeling and let it flow seeing what else it tells you about this human trait.

 

Your turn – Share your human sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 175 – Inspiration

June 24

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Inspiration

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 1 a. a divine influence or action on a person believed to qualify him or her to receive and communicate sacred revelation.  1 b. the action or power of moving the intellect or emotions.  1 c. the act of influencing or suggesting opinions.  3 a. the quality or state of being inspired.  3 b. something that is inspired.

 

Inspiration in a sentence: Inspiration can move you to do things that you would have not otherwise thought you could do.

 

Inspiration in action: When something or someone brings about strong emotions that move you (emotionally and from within), that is inspiration.

 

Inspiration and inner growth: A look at the inspiration in your life and how inspiration affects you from within, as well as in the actions it brings you to take, gives you an in-depth knowledge of your emotional connections and triggers, your beliefs and inner drive.  This exploration allows you to further that connection or transform it thanks to your level of awareness and this leads to inner growth.

 

Inspiration and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What does inspiration mean to me? How does inspiration affect my life?  When and how has inspiration affected my actions and/or decisions?  Who symbolizes inspiration to me?  When I think of something about me that represents what inspiration means to me, what comes to mind?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with inspiration at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Now write a second list with at least three things or people that represent the essence of inspiration to you.  Pick one of these things and use the first list to write about it.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about inspiration and as you allow your emotions to flow notice if they freely navigate all around or sit in certain areas of your body more than others. As you notice this, with your intention, imagine a flowing river of these emotions and send them harmoniously throughout your body.  At this point allow thoughts to come in, but focus on the thought that causes the biggest emotional response and then allow the feelings from this thought to take over and do the talking.

 

Your turn – Share your inspiration sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 174 – Inconsistent

June 23

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Inconsistent

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (adj.) 1. lacking consistency.  1 a. not compatible with another fact or claim.  1 b. containing incompatible elements.  1 c. incoherent or illogical in thought or actions.  1 d. not satisfiable by the same set of values for the unknowns.

 

Inconsistent in a sentence: When you experience a number of inconsistent actions, you start to wonder if there’s a disconnect somewhere.

 

Inconsistent in action: When you say something but do something else, that is inconsistent.

 

Inconsistent and inner growth: Whether an inconsistent action or thought or event is at play, taking a deeper look allows for the discovery of areas within you that may need some attention due to something missing or possibly something where two or more things are a part of it.  This exploration brings about inner growth since it gets you to evaluate inconsistent events from within and for your inconsistent actions and/or thoughts, to be aware of their multifaceted nature and/or the possible disconnect that is present within you.

 

Inconsistent and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What do I think about someone inconsistent? What do I think about my inconsistent thoughts, actions, or ways?  How has inconsistent thinking affected my life?  What types of inconsistent events have I been through?  Why have I thought about inconsistent topics before?  When was the first time I defined something as inconsistent and why?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with inconsistent at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Now pick one word that reminds you of two events where inconsistent thinking took place.  Write about the two events with the rest of the words from your list and then compare them to see what commonalities and differences the two stories have between them.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about inconsistent and allow these emotions to go where they like. Notice if they navigate more towards one area of your body or evenly disperse.  As you sit in silence, take note of what types of feelings stand out the most and when you’re ready allow thoughts to come in as you hone in on the strongest feeling present.  From here let your emotions do the rest of the talking about this particular event.

 

Your turn – Share your inconsistent sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 173 – Leadership

June 22

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Leadership

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 2. capacity to lead.  3. the act or an instance of leading.

 

Leadership in a sentence: When good leadership is a part of the equation in the decision-making process, things get done and move along smoothly.

 

Leadership in action: When someone supports and encourages the best for themselves and for others leadership is present.

 

Leadership and inner growth: Leadership holds different meanings to different people, but when present it is always something that leads in a positive direction.  Exploring the areas you hold leadership in (for your life and for others) allows you to further that leadership, as well as apply it to areas where you see it lacking.  This brings to inner growth and allows you to further your own journey, as well as assist others in theirs.

 

Leadership and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What’s my definition of leadership? Where do I see leadership present within me?  How do I envision leadership in my life?  What have I learned from leadership?  How has leadership affected my relationships?  When was the first time I explored leadership and what brought me to explore it?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with leadership at the center and then list or put around it all the other words that come to mind associated with it. Now list three instances where leadership was fundamental to the outcome of those events.  Pick one of the three events from your list of three and then write about it using the words from your first list.  Notice what stands out the most about this important moment in your life.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about leadership and allow them to flow throughout your body without focusing on any one emotion, just feel where the emotions go. As you do this visualize a flowing river and if you notice any feeling staying still in one area, move it along.  When you’re ready allow thoughts to come in too and focus on the one thought that stands out the most for the emotions that arise from it.  Let your feelings do the rest of the talking.

 

Your turn – Share your leadership sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Avoiding to take out frustrations or a bad day on somebody else

Avoiding to take out frustrations or a bad day on somebody else

A couple days ago I had an interesting conversation that sparked my thoughts for today’s Wednesday Wisdom post.

The story first ~

I was at a café in Pozzuoli (near Naples, Italy) getting an espresso and asking about how payment for the parking lot worked. The signs that explained the regulations were confusing as to what the costs were depending on the day and time. 

From this conversation, the bartenders told me about an encounter they had had during the week with a lady who had the same question, but who got upset about the parking payment system as they told her how it worked. 

As they were sharing what happened, a gentleman at the counter (who I later found out is the café’s owner) intervened saying how he would have told the lady that if she didn’t like it she could leave and that they served coffee, they had no control over how the parking payment system worked.  As he expressed this, I could tell he was quite upset. 

In response, I said that maybe the lady was having a bad day, at which he replied we could all be having a bad day that doesn’t mean anything.  His tone was still quite upset, so then I tried to find out if the lady had somehow offended the bartenders (his employees) and that’s why he was taking it so personally or maybe she had offended the café.

This wasn’t the case or I should say, what transpired was that he had a stressful living situation going on at home.  He blurted it out as he was somewhat venting about this lady and her tone.  His employees gave this look of shock, like oh no, what is he saying; why is he sharing all this information with customers. 

The moral of the story is that had he been there he would’ve gotten as “aggressive” in his tone as the lady’s tone with his staff.  Obviously, it was clear that like the lady, he too was frustrated for something that day.  Had the two met they would have fueled each other’s “fire” so to speak.  Luckily, he wasn’t there and his staff handled it by simply allowing the lady to vent and then go about her way.

Without focusing on this situation from a business and customer service angle, but from a communication standpoint, if you meet fire (an angry tone) without fire (so calmly), you not only allow the situation to avoid escalating; but you also avoid two angry people getting on each other’s case for no reason except for the fact that they both were having a really bad day.

Kindness and love or at least understanding without taking something personally (especially when it isn’t a direct attack on your person) will always benefit a situation for you, as well as the “aggressor” who is dealing with some kind of stressful situation.

People aren’t always upfront about what is going on in their life; after all, it’s personal.  But if you stay calm and lend an ear, that can be enough to help a person get rid of pent up emotions.  In this case, could have the lady avoided yelling at the staff about something they had no control over?  Yes, of course she could’ve; but she didn’t because she wasn’t aware of how she was taking out her frustrations on others.  Thanks to the staff being able to stay calm they didn’t make the situation worse.

Always try to see what kind of day you’re having and if you’re taking out your frustrations on somebody else.  Also keep in mind that if someone gets “aggressive” with you, it could be due to something that is going on in their life that puts them on edge and upsets them so much that they’ll find any way to let it out.

Try to be understanding of others and realize that they usually express frustration if they are upset for some reason (something that they’re dealing with).  If it gets too bad, just remove yourself from the situation altogether.  In the end, you getting frustrated with the other person doesn’t help them stop; and if anything, it gets you to take the same tone with them.

How do you handle people who speak to you out of frustration?