Inner Growth Word of The Day 17

Inner Growth Word of The Day 17

January 17

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Conflict

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 2 a. competitive or opposing action of incompatibles:  antagonistic state or action (as of divergent ideas, interests, or persons). 2 b. mental struggle resulting from incompatible or opposing needs, drives, wishes, or external or internal demands.

 

Conflict in a sentence: Conflict can present itself when your conscience is not in sync with your life and actions.

 

Conflict in action: When opposing thoughts or actions take place within you or with others, conflict arises.

 

Conflict and inner growth: Conflict is an opportunity for you to explore two opposing views and/or feelings, which leads to more questions about your views and/or feelings.  This type of exploration brings inner growth because it makes those views and feelings come to the surface, allowing you to see them clearly.

 

Conflict and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: How do I feel about conflict? What types of internal conflicts do I have?  What types of conflicts do I have with others?  How do I deal with conflict?  In what ways have my conflicts affected me?  What have I done to resolve my conflicts?  Do I believe conflicts can be resolved?  If no, why?  If yes, why?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with conflict at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. Now write down one to five internal conflicts you have.  With the words you associate to conflict and the internal conflicts you listed do you notice any pattern in your feelings towards conflict?  Next pick one internal conflict you listed and write a story where you resolve that conflict throughout the story.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about conflict. As you notice those feelings is anything specific going through your mind?  If you had to put into words what you’re feeling, what would you say?  How would you describe the feeling and what’s going on inside of you?

 

Your turn – Share your conflict sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 16

January 16

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Love

 

Google’s Dictionary/Search definition: (n.) 1. an intense feeling of deep affection.

 

Love in a sentence: Love is one of those feelings that fills our entire being with that indescribable magical and tingly sensation of euphoria.

 

Love in action: When love is present between people and/or life in general, the most amazing things come to be.

 

Love and inner growth:  Since love is one of those feelings that can uplift us at any time, it is helpful to our inner growth.  Not only can love re-energize us, but when you choose to stop and notice what type of relationship you have with love, you can also find out if there’s something more to explore (within).

 

Love and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: When I think of love, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? When I think of love, how do I feel inside?  Do I think love is a feeling that everyone experiences?  What place does love have in my life?  Do I judge love?  If yes, how so?  What role does love play in my inner growth journey?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with love at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. Now think of an image for each word you wrote down associated to love.  Now think of an image for the word love.  When you’re up for it (have the time), search for the images that came to mind and create a collage of them, with the image that came to mind for love at the center.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about love and identify where you notice its affects within you first (maybe a warm feeling in your heart area or maybe a tingly sensation in your abdomen). Try to notice if those sensations grow or change as you think of love (the feeling).  Then try thinking of love that you have for your loved ones and see if there’s a difference in the sensations you feel now than you did before (when just thinking about love the feeling).

 

Your turn – Share your love sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 15

January 15

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Difference

 

Google’s Dictionary/Search definition: (n.) 1. a point or way in which people or things are not the same.

 

Difference in a sentence: From the outside differences between things or people are pretty obvious, but when it comes to what’s below the surface not so much.

 

Difference in action: Differences between people reveal themselves as those individuals interact, converse, share experiences and life events amongst each other.

 

Difference and inner growth: Differences are an opportunity for you to look at your uniqueness, as well as the uniqueness of others.  By looking at differences with curiosity and the desire to understand, you can pursue inner growth for yourself and also gain insights into other ways, thoughts, and perspectives from the people around you.

 

Difference and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: Do I judge differences? If yes, how so?  Do I think what makes me different also makes me unique or something else?  How do I look at others and their differences?  Do I think differences need to change or only some differences?  If so, why?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with difference at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with differences and you. Write a story with your differences being the main theme throughout the story.  Then make a second list or word bubble with difference at the center and list or put around it all the words associated with differences and others (the differences of other people).  Now write a story with you (and your differences) interacting with at least one other person that has five of the differences you included in your second list.  What do you notice about your lists and your stories?  How did the differences affect your story?  How did you treat your differences in the story compared to the differences of others in the second story?

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about difference, what’s the first feeling that you notice? How about the first thought?  Take note if you feel closed off towards others or as if there’s a need to justify these differences or if you feel completely comfortable.  Let your feelings speak to you; don’t stop the direction they seem to be taking.  You can write something down that stands out and come back to it, but let yourself feel for at least a couple minutes before stopping the flow of emotions connected to your differences.  Then if you’re up for it, do the same thing, but with someone else’s differences and see what feelings you notice.

 

Your turn – Share your difference sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 14

January 14

 

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Insecurity

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 1. not confident or sure:  uncertain. 2. not adequately guarded or sustained:  unsafe. 3. not firmly fastened or fixed:  shaky; 4 a. not highly stable or well-adjusted. 4 b. deficient in assurance:  beset by fear and anxiety.

 

Insecurity in a sentence: Feelings of insecurity set in when we’re not sure about something we’ve done (is it right or wrong) or when we don’t know what to expect from a specific situation, or the unknown outcome of an event/meeting/interaction that involves multiple components outside of us.

 

Insecurity in action: Insecurity causes worry and concerns that can keep us stuck. Each person experiences different levels of insecurity and for those who get very anxious when it’s happening it becomes very tough to see anything else outside of that moment.

 

Insecurity and inner growth:  Insecurity is something we all experience at one time or another.  Instead of labeling it good or bad, you can learn from it if you allow it to express itself and ask yourself questions as to why you’re feeling this way.

 

Insecurity and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: Why am I feeling this way? Am I judging this, me, or someone?  Is this a reflection of what I believe?  Is this a reflection of what I feel is true in my heart?  If a friend was feeling this way would I think differently about what’s going on?  What advice would I give a friend going through this?  And any other questions that come to mind with insecurity until you feel you’ve arrived at the answer.

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with insecurity at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with that moment, thought, thing, feeling; everything that comes to mind, put it down. With those words write a short story describing your insecurity as if it were playing out in real life.  Then write a second story with your insecurity resolved.

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about insecurity and as you acknowledge them focus your attention to your heart too and start feeling that feeling of comfort and reassurance that you get when you know everything will be alright. Do this for as long as you want while you try to pinpoint what your insecurities are telling you. A feeling of comfort helps you to explore your insecurities, while also bringing you to develop a different emotional relationship with them.

 

Your turn – Share your insecurity sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Being objective in a subjective world

Being objective in a subjective world

Do you ever wonder how objective you can really be in a subjective world?  Our opinions and feelings affect us so much as we’re going through an experience, as we try to explain something.  Even when studies are presented to us there seems to be a surrounding of opinions within it through the explanation of the findings, through the interpretation of the data given (with the conclusions), and even in follow up studies.  Then we see in the world, new discoveries, some that even prove what was once untrue, to now be true.  Then there are the cultural changes that never cease to amaze and come about as time passes.  So, even if we try to be objective about something, do you ever notice the subjective components to it?  Particularly, when you’re exploring a moment of life, a situation that has happened to you, or when you’re formulating your own conclusions about yourself, people or events.

Being able to look at something and seeing the subjective components to it can help you to see the objective parts about it too.  It’s like looking at a mosaic, it’s made up of different colored pieces that you can’t remove, otherwise you wouldn’t have the mosaic.  It’s helpful to you to see the subjective in the objective because that’s what gives a situation or thought its spin.  This means you can identify pieces to your thought process or emotional response that are affecting you in that moment and by being able to do that you can also clearly see the objective part of the equation.  It’s kind of like that exercise you’ve probably heard about somewhere online; the one where you step back, close your eyes, take a deep breath and count to 10.  The only difference here is that you’re actually looking to explore the different pieces to the puzzle actively, as things are taking place.

Seeing the mosaic of your objective-subjective thoughts is one way people can take a good look at themselves without blurring their vision with words they think are objective, yet that hold the subjective.  It’s also a helpful exercise for those individuals pursuing inner growth, wanting to transform their habits or thought patterns; or wanting to get to know themselves in and out by being able to look beyond the outline (boxed categories) they’ve been provided by the world and those around them.

Looking at the world this way also helps to see things, people and life from a different, more inclusive point of view because nothing is taken for granted or removed from the equation.  It’s all there, in the light.  How much of what you see or how many colors your mosaic is made up of depends on your belief of the number of possibilities, types of thought processes, etc.  If that view includes the unlimited, then you’ve got an infinite possibility of colors, shapes, and sizes for your mosaic.

What do you think about objectivity in a subjective world?  And what role has it played in your life?

Inner Growth Word of The Day 13

January 13

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Existence

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 1 b. reality as presented in experience. 1 d. sentient or living being.

 

Existence in a sentence: Contemplating existence depends on our curiosity about life and our experiences.

 

Existence in action: When you notice the wind blowing through your hair or a child’s smile from afar, when you think about a day’s work or last night’s family dinner; all of these and more comprise existence.

 

Existence and inner growth: It is very possible that a journey towards inner growth has some basis in the exploration of existence.  Awareness of existence brings humans to talk about life, which also brings about questions to meaning and/or purpose, and these consequently lead to questions about one’s own meaning and purpose.

 

Existence and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: What does existence mean to me? How has talking about it affected my life?  Do I think about existence naturally or is the thought triggered by specific events or situations?  What do I like most about existence?  What do I like the least?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with existence at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. Write a short story about existence as if it were a person, how does the story play out?  Then write a short story with the words in your list, but this time focus your story on your own existence.  Does anything stand out between the two stories?

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about existence; do you notice anything unique about them? Do you allow your feelings to flow freely or do you end up diverting your attention elsewhere?  Is there something that excites or saddens you when it comes to existence?  Explore whatever feelings come to be without judgement and if questions or thoughts come to mind, notice what feelings are associated to those and bring your focus back to how that ties in with your feelings about existence.

 

Your turn – Share your existence sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂

Inner Growth Word of The Day 12

January 12

Inner Growth Word of the Day: Structure

 

Merriam-Webster Dictionary definition: (n.) 4 b. organization of parts as dominated by the general character of the whole. 4 c. coherent form or organization.

 

Structure in a sentence: Children are given structure so that they may integrate into the ways of the world.

 

Structure in action: Society can work together thanks to the building blocks that make up its structure.

 

Structure and inner growth:  A look at the structures you grew up with can help you identify why you do some of the things you do, and even why you think some of the things you think.

 

Structure and inner growth action steps:

  1. In-depth self-exploration questions: How does structure play a role in who I am? When I think of structure in my life, who or what comes to mind?  Is structure different for me today than it was five years ago?  If yes, how so?  When I look at my personality structure what do I see?  What about when I think of societal structure?  Do I think structure is necessary?

 

  1. List or word bubble: Make a list or word bubble with structure at the center and then list or put around it all the words that come to mind associated with it. Now use those words to write a story about your personality structure and then a second story with those same words about societal structure.  Between the two stories is there a difference in the way they play out and the feelings surrounding them?  Also, when you look at the list of words you wrote down, do you notice a pattern in the types of words you associate to structure?  If so, what’s the pattern?

 

  1. Bring your awareness to your feelings about structure and take note if you feel light, heavy or neutral. What about when you think of its role in your life?  As you focus attention on your feelings, do you notice any areas of your body signaling for attention? What about if you thought of losing all structure?  What feelings do you notice then?

 

Your turn – Share your structure sentence, life examples, and inner growth action steps; and let me know if you’d like to see something added to our Inner Growth Word of The Day explorations 🙂